Hello Friends,

       A peer moderator is any one of us who performs that function ( all of us here are the 'peers')

      I performed that function and this is what I said: " Just want to alert y'all to what feels like an inappropriate thread and couple of posts"

      That was it. I didn't feel like engaging the specific thread directly because of my deep connection to Linn's site. I don't actually take sides but I do act according to my own conscience and inner promptings.

     I never recieve satisfaction or joy from another's discomfort or pain. Boundries do have to be set sometimes. Yesterday somebody was wacking me on the top of the head with a magazine. It was in a spirit of play to them. I told them it felt invasive and not to do it. They were very hurt and upset that I told them this, that I set a boundry. But I said "Look at me, I feel no anger towards you. The top of my head is sensitive, that's all. I needed to tell you to stop."

I don't think anyone who used the peer-moderator function feels satisfaction or pleasure at the outcome.

My respect and love to you all, Tim F.

It is about the days given.  If it was, 2 months, half a year, perma ban, I could see how people could be upset.  Instead of saying, 'Could you clean that up for me dear?', Bruce simply probationed her. For a very short amount of time.  She's learning her lesson.  If she would have read the rules when signing up she wouldn't have had this problem.

And if she refuses to post here after this is over, then it's her problem, she's welcomed back.

Augo, everyone who is registered is a Peer Moderator. Go to the bottom of this page and read it for yourself.

Thanks Marilyn i have but i do not see any peer moderator names listed? Oh sorry re-read your post Marilyn - i see we all peer moderators thats fair enough.  Tim you explained this as well.

It's strange how people who report posts cannot handle a situation by themselves and feel they have to rely on higher powers to intervene. Sad really .. the lack of confidence they have in themselves.


Further in defence of Juditha; her psychic abilities should not be under estimated. i found Juditha to be extremely sensitive to all the current discussed topics - it is Juditha who raises them at the exact moment when it is required.  A subtle thing that maybe others have missed but most definately there and her ability to offer psychic readings with a degree of accuracy has been proven. Antwnhs message mentions this well.

People may think that Juditha, in her simplicity is not talented, i say right now Juditha most probably has more psychic abilities than all of us put together  -  She expands herself with Deena as an outlet. Her mannerism is of gentle humbliness and i am sure she only gives us a piece of her talent. She should be an example to all of us in this humbliness. She is tapping into a higher realm and should be respected and supported for this.

My gut feeling about Juditha - and i miss her.

Augoeideian
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Click on the Peer Moderator information in blue and it will take you to a page that Bruce wrote ALL about Peer Moderator and why it's needed.

Love ya, Mairlyn

doc said: The person would be advised what is against the rules, and asked to remove it and cease any similar comments.  In all likelihood (as in Juditha's example), that would do it.  Any who read this brief conversation would know what transpired. 
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sounds like a good plan Doc but due to the popularity of this board expediancy, and the fact a finger was being pointed at a member, who already went through this once from this board with another person, that is why expediancy was necessary among other reasons unseen. this person who would be appointed would be like a policy enforcer, or a cop if you will. they would have to be on this board at least once a day for your plan to work efficiently. I see you are a great person who is able to moderate and level things out in a kind manner but I don't think its reasonable to expect that the core group here can be on top of everything going on here at all times and its not right to put it all on Bruce just because he made this place. and its not right to start attacking the peer moderators whoever they may be for asking Bruce to look at a post and make a decision, then when he makes a decision to come back and say, well, heres how you should have done it. I think we're blowing this out of proportion to what it really is. I don't believe in victims. their higher selves planned a slam dunk for them. its Juditha's challenge to forgive now. it takes a really big person to forgive others their trespasses but she will grow tremendously and hugely if she does forgive and I think she has it in her and all this was perfect to happen the way it did.
some of us think globally, some of us think personally. Juditha is learning to think globally..she set this up. nobody did her a dirty deed but what she didn't agree to on higher levels. if she had not named another person's name in her post, she'd not have been laid off work for awhile and we'd still be over there trying to help her get over it...as it turned out some miracle may happen during the time out and I think instead of yakking about whats wrong with this picture..lets all get together in our minds and send light to all parties, light is energy, and it will bring a lot more clarity to the situation than I believe any politics will.
see each person involved completely experiencing a clearing and a lightened up heart and if we all did this as a group we would have our healling quickly.

Thanks Mair,

I agree with putting energy to good use.  I feel this thread is doing that.  Nothing in this thread is specifically attached to Linn or Juditha's complaint.  That should be between the two of them, and was not appropriate subject matter for the forum.  I have put the energy I usually reserve for healing into this discussion because I think that there is a better way.  The plan I outlined is, perhaps the quickest and most painless way for any moderator to peer moderate.  It is also done out in the open.   I think those who are telling Augo, myself and others to "deal with it," may be missing the emotional impact and sense of unfairness caused by the whole thing.  There is no getting around that the way this was done polarized members on the forum.  There is a better way, now and in the future.  I have offered to help if volunteers are needed.  I would hope that all who know me here know that I have no ties to any person or website's agenda.

Alysia, I agree in sending light for healing.  I see no reason that acting in a loving manner may not involve embracing any and all parties, and letting them know they are valued members of the forum.  If you read my posts, you will plainly see that I never attack the moderator(s) in any way.  I merely voice the opinion of many who have emailed me and posted here, and hope - that our voice is heard. 

It would be a mistake to think that those of us who have voiced support for Juditha condone her language regarding Linn.  I for one do not.  I merely wish to make peace and let Bruce and the moderators know that without direct intervention, open in the thread, there has been needless emotional pain inflicted in this case. 


Juditha was not a repeat offender, like others here (Don) who was given several public warnings.  She may have had no clue as to what was done, and it would have been so much easier to intercede directly in the thread and have things removed.

Juditha joined a forum unrelated to this one, was banned within 1 day for reasons which are still unclear to her (without a negative post there), and unfortunately brought her issues to Bruce's forum.  She did this for the support she has gotten in the past. 

Somewhere within the comments about "just let it be," there is something lost.  A member who was hurt and seeking advice - perhaps using poor language came to us.  And the result, Juditha's further hurt, does not rub many of us the right way.

Love,

Matthew