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Your mom is not letting go, as she does not know how to progress and move forward. She is unskilled because she does not know how to function yet without her 3D physical senses and physical body. Therefore, she remains attached to what she knows (e.g., you, your son, and her former house, her furniture, her physical memories of the house).
The message from your dad seemed to be hinting at the current condition of your mom (e.g., my impression). To get an idea of what I am saying, go back to the experience with your dad (in your mind) and additionally imagine yourself able to hear your mom. She is complaining to your dad about the changes going on inside of her (former) home. Imagine her in the garage in folding chairs because she cannot find the chair where she would normally sit because of all the changes going on. Imagine your dad intervening with her, and at the same time communicating to you "See mom and I talking? I got this! You keep doing what you are doing. I am proud of you!"
My strongest sense in all this ... I do not know how you could not be entangled energetically. These are your parents. So, don't be too hard on yourself. This interpretation is very personal.
Finally, I might suggest that it is important to have a "a sense of ease" when progressing through these kinds of intimacies. To be in a place of "feeling good". Maybe it is time to clear up your own energy a bit by seeking some healing. See what changes (in what you resonate with) after that.
Wow ST, this really did resonate with me. It brought tears to my eyes. It really seems to make sense. When I go back in my mind and replay how I saw Mom and Dad sitting there, Mom was looking down at the ground while she was going on and on to Dad, which was the way she would be when she was really driving a point home. Dad was sitting slightly turned to show he was paying attention but his face was turned looking at me and he was smiling at me, which of course told me he was also giving me his attention. I think you're spot on about his message to me. Also, Dad was sitting closer toward me so I can interpret that to mean he was between us, or protecting me from Mom's energy. In life Dad always was a protector for me when Mom would lose her temper.
And what you said about the chairs made so much sense I don't know why I didn't think about it. Mom's usual places she would sit are now gone, and the house is changed so much that the garage is really the only place that hasn't been renovated. (The basement hasn't changed yet either but this interpretation fits well).
And I also agree that I need to clear up my own energy and seek healing. I've been very busy and focused on managing the house renovations that I haven't spent as much time as I need to on just myself, although I do believe the house renovations are representative of working on myself on some level. But about my Mom specifically, I do need to resolve my issues about her. I try not to dwell on the painful memories and I just remind myself that mom had personality disorders. I'm sure some of what she did to me was the fault of that, although from a spiritual perspective it seems obvious that Mom and I had some reasons why for we came into our lives playing these roles with each other. For whatever those reasons were, I have to accept and live with it, so I try not to hold any disgruntled feelings about it.
I do try to show Mom my love and appreciation in ways that I can and ways that I think she'd appreciate. For instance, when I work on her garden or when I remember to do things in a way she wanted, like if I remember some advice she gave me that I find actually comes in handy, I'll mentally send her a "thank you". I hope she gets these messages and I hope they help her. I'm going to do some specific energy work directing intention to Mom to help resolve some things for both of us about how she might be feeling like you said, still hanging on and having a hard time letting go of her things, her house, etc.
Thank you!