heisenberg69 wrote on Nov 4th, 2010 at 10:28am:.... good post James.
I very much 2nd the above!
I would just add that sometimes it's important to consciously ask for help from Guidance levels. Set an affirmation of something like, "I deeply desire to fully know, experience, and perceive PUL." "I sincerely ask for and deeply desire the assistance, wisdom, & guidance of the most PUL attuned Guidance energies and consciousness or those most spiritually beneficial for me and the Whole to attune to at this time."
In this PUL process, it is both a conscious, will oriented trying (creating a emotional and mental habit basically), and also opening up and observing. It needs a balance and since most individuals are imbalanced between the Yin and Yang within, some may need a different proportion and emphasis than another of the above balance.
Very generally speaking, more men tend to need to focus a bit more on the opening up/observing/feeling part, and more women tend to need to focus more on the will and reasoning out aspect.
It's also important to realize the importance of universalizing these feelings and expressions. But like James said, for many sometimes one just has to start with those one already likes and/or loves.
A good way to start with the more universal part is to practice a meditation wherein you think of someone you have had difficulties with or tend to dislike and believe, know that this person is a part of Source and you are part of each other, but this person still has their own unique, individual path and developement (hence, there may be things about them that you don't fully understand and know about).
Feel positivity towards them and try to tune in and see below the hurtful words and actions to what's really beneath and why they have felt or acted this way. This helps to develop compassion and insight into others.
Accept those parts of them and those parts of you that responded negatively in turn, and then let it go and then focus on the general feeling of love for awhile and then bring them into that as part of it.
Sometimes one may need to go back to the more general feeling and remembering of love, say in relation to a loved one or what not. But like anything, the more we practice these things, the better we get.
Life experiences and challenges also generally play an important role.