I'm still very new here and am asking questions without the advantage of knowing what's gone before. 

I hope you'll be understanding when I ask if any preparations were made with/by Bruce to try to establish a transdimensional link to him. Are there any members here who are experienced mediums, someone who might link to Bruce?

I don't think an experienced medium is required. 

I know that Bruce planned to visit several people, me being one of them.  But that only speaks to his experience.  It takes some work on the part of the other person in order for them to become aware of it. 

I'm still waiting for a more direct and physical-feeling visit from him, whether it's while I'm awake or during sleep such as an OBE. 

My father was a very religious man.  He wasn't much into the spiritual side of things.  But if he can come back with all the visits he's given us, then I'm sure someone such as Bruce is more than capable and willing. 

I had a lot of OBEs and experiences of sensing Bruce's energy while he was physically alive, so I'm expecting it to keep happening.  But I have to wonder, is something I'm doing preventing me from being aware of such visits?  Am I too sad and depressed, under too much stress?  Or is Bruce perhaps a little busy and preoccupied at the moment? 

Honestly, I haven't tried very hard yet, but I will.  I plan to prep myself and try, and be patient and wait.

Vicky wrote on Nov 26^th, 2017 at 12:33am:


Thanks for replying.  As an 'outsider' in this small community I will see matters differently from those who are long associated with one another.

I take your point about not needing a third party with whom Bruce would communicate to reach you.  I realise you're psychically sensitive but don't know how much that translates into trans-dimensional communication or the type of communication.  The type of link you're expecting doesn't appear to have happened or you're not yet aware of it.  I find that surprising because - as an outsider - I thought Bruce would have wanted to reassure you that he's fine, paricularly after your long association with him and the subject you worked together on.  But what do I know?

What I do know is that there appears to be few instances where those who have passed, even those who have had a lifelong involvement with spiritual communication issues, return to give a bird's-eye-view of their new surroundings.  Perhaps there's nothing new to tell, perhaps they have other things they prefer to do, perhaps with a wider perspective on 'the big picture' it's really not important that Bruce 'gets back' to folk  from 'the other side'. Perhaps for many other reasons I can't even guess at.  I know nothing of the dynamics of an incarnate life now over that might suggest what wil come next.

I understand why you might feel down and depressed at his passing.  Even though we understand survival it doesn't necessarily lessen our missing that physical person.  Maybe that does have an impact on your receptiveness to his being around; I don't know.

I'm sorry if I've spoken out of turn in any way but TDC is a special interest for me and I like to try to understand what's happening. 

As an outsider I don't know if any/many other members are sensitives to te degree that his nearness would be detected by them.  Maybe other members will add their own thoughts now.

Boy, you really got me thinking Mac!

It makes me remember the time that I saw a bird’s spirit leave its body.  It had a head-on collision with my windshield while I was doing about 45 mph.  Nasty sound.  I was shocked of course.  That’s not something you expect.  I quickly look into my passenger-side mirror and see the little bird roll off my roof and land on the ground on his two little feet.  He did a little shake of his head and then his body, as if he were thinking, “Whew, that was a close call!  Glad I’m ok!”  I was just relieved the little guy was still alive!  I continued driving, went to work, worked all day, and at the end of the day as I’m coming back out to my car I see something strange.  As I got closer to my car I saw that the bird was actually dead, his body having been shoved under the luggage rack on the top of my car.  He’d been wedged in there all day long.  What I’d seen wasn’t his physical body roll off my roof, but saw him nonphysically.  He looked just the same, a little bird, still alive, totally intact, happy as can be.  He had no idea what had happened to him.  Or maybe he did, who knows.  All I know is, I saw him and he was ok.  Now that I realized he had actually died on impact, not survived, it was both sad and totally amazing at the same time.  I felt bad for him, but at the same time it was totally amazing to have seen his nonphysical form leave his body and be just fine!  If a bird can die and still live in spirit form, then so can people of course.  I just wish it was so much more common for me to have these kinds of experiences...seeing nonphysically.

These dimensions are so close together it seems bizarre that we can’t just so easily and automatically travel from one to the next.  And while technically speaking it IS easy, it’s still not something we consciously do or have awareness of doing.  The only reasons I can come up with as to why I saw the bird’s spirit was (1) the day before I had just returned from visiting Bruce and his wife in Florida and I was still kind of “displaced” from that.  I wasn’t ready to come back and energy-wise I was still with Bruce in Florida. 

You know how when you’re on vacation having such a good time that even when you come back you still feel like you’re still there, all the feelings are still there?  It’s like that.  So my awareness hadn’t fully come back to ground me in my physical surroundings yet.  Also, the night before I had woken up and thought it was physical, but I was out of body, and felt very confused so that was weird too.  And, the last night of my stay at Bruce’s house I had an OBE in the wee hours of that morning.  So obviously my level of awareness was already in a heightened state and very prone to perceiving on other levels of awareness. So because of that PLUS the sudden shock of this bird hitting my windshield and jarring me, it was a huge shock to my system, so it made me easily shift away from the physical very easily.  Under normal circumstances, I doubt I would have seen the bird’s spirit come out of its body.  Shock does a lot to jar us from our normal senses. 

Also--I had a near death experience years ago.  And from that I am aware of a few things that are hard to understand from our perspective.  One is time.  Over there, your sense of “time” is so different.  It’s like, when you think about your life, your life is literally like a blink of an eye compared to time there.  I didn’t want to return to my body because I knew that in like “five minutes” my kids’ lives would be over and they’d be joining me anyway, so why go back?  I was forced to go back, it wasn’t by choice. 

Another is dimensionality.  When I “died” and left my body and left the physical, all I was doing was nothing more than shifting my awareness.  It was a piece of cake.  Can I do it right now at this moment?  No.  I wouldn’t know how.  But it literally is that simple.  It’s so ridiculously simple.  Even though I was “so far away” dimensionally, the physical was literally right behind me.  I could have reached out and stuck my arm into it if I tried. 

Another is realizing the totality of your Being.  There’s no way I could describe it to make you completely understand what I mean.  But over there you become aware of just how big and vast your Being actually is.  You, as a physical living person right at this moment, are for lack of a better term, pretty small compared to just how great your total Being actually is.  Think of a book that has thousands of pages in it.  And your life is like one word.  In your physical life you’re only aware of that one word, not aware of all the other words, sentences, and pages that make up the whole book.  If you could shift your awareness to another word or another page, you’d be consciously aware of what “you” are doing elsewhere at the moment.  But while you’re here in the physical, you’re only aware of this part of your existence. 


So right now Bruce could be more focused on other things than desperately trying to get someone’s attention here.  He could be distracted by things that have more of his attention at the moment.  He could be doing some kind of life review or working through some unresolved issues.  Or maybe he’s recuperating.  Or maybe he’s busy helping, teaching, or working on some plans or projects. 

I don’t think the timing of a visit from him matters.  I am not one of those people who believe that the farther out that time passes from his death, it means that Bruce won’t be capable of communicating anymore.  Some believe that, but I don’t. 

I believe that contact is only a state of being away.  I think Bruce will always be able to feel and reconnect with anyone who wants to, even after he gets busy doing other things.  The “how” of it might change, but I believe that feelings are not just things we feel, but are also states of being.  A feeling can place you back into a certain state of being that shifts your awareness instantly. 

The most important thing that Bruce taught was the feeling of love.  Pure unconditional love.  It’s a very heightened state of being which while you’re in it can do amazing things!  Like raise your awareness to a high degree and open your perception way beyond its normal limits.

Oh yeah? What do you see differently than I do?  Might make for some interesting conversation!  I'm always open and curious to hear other people's experiences and beliefs.  Sometimes it sparks new experiences for me too.

mac wrote on Nov 23^rd, 2017 at 5:52pm:


Hi Mac ...

I am new here also. I was briefly here just over 2 years ago, but the forum was not being well facilitated or managed due to Bruce's declining health, so I found other places to talk about and share my experiences.

I think that Vicky has been very generous here. I have read the comments in your thread and I agree pretty much with everything that she has shared. I can add to this your conversation with her, that I am not clairvoyant or gifted, and yet I have had many of the same experiences which Vicky mentions.

For example, I have communicated with my father since his transition. He had alzheimers-dementia so I was providing 24 hour care for him in his home. That was over 4 years ago. After he died, he communicated with me while I was asleep just as he was leaving (e.g., like he finally got some help with that). The clarity of his contact was astounding and unforgettable (not anything like a dream). He was also much like Vicky's father (he read the Bible a lot).

In the last year, as my practice with my guidance has developed, my contact with him has increased. He has even helped me out in several non-physical experiences. And now that he has transitioned completely, I would say he feels very different. I think that my recognizing this difference has increased my perceptions of him (if that makes sense). I sometimes get odd reminders during the day about things.

Maybe to help bring more clarity to what I am sharing, I had my first out of body experience (OBE) just over 2 1/2 year ago now, and that really opened some things up for me. It caught my attention, because it showed me that I was more than my physical body.

Also, in an early OBE, I met one of my guides (a female past life or what some call "a strand"). We all have strands. I have met 4 or 5 of mine. I mention things this way, because it is easy to conceptualize a lot of this stuff ... but when you start having experiences with it, that's when awareness opens and things really change.

My approach to life, death and what follows is a pretty simple one where contact with discarnates is via a third part facilitator, an evidential (spiritual) medium.  It's a once traditional way with its roots over here in the USA.  My story isn't important to this conversation save to make a comparison with what appears to have become a much-more 'fashionable' way of TDC.

I'm increasingly aware that mediumship has fallen out of favor, replaced by OBEs and NDEs as folk's introduction to the notion of survival.  I 'observe' this situation from the accounts of those who have experienced them. 

My experience and understanding doesn't much relate to this new picture and maybe that's another reason I don't say as much as I used to.   When you don't know about stuff then you don't have much to say that's useful is my approach. 

Subtle Traveler wrote on Nov 28^th, 2017 at 12:04pm:


That's young!  I'm glad you got through it.  I was diagnosed at age 43, two weeks before my 44th birthday.  I will spare the gory details (and I probably already shared all that on the Healing Forum) but I had told my doc "I want a colonoscopy!"  I'm probably the only person in the world to utter that sentence, LOL.  But good thing I did. 

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Thank you so much, it's always nice to hear that!  I really do need to get to work on my other book ideas.   

Thanks for explaining your approach, ST.