Like Andy, I do not understand fearing something that will occur...that we cannot control, outside of assuring it will happen when you pull the trigger.  I have undergone many past life regressions and each one ends with the death of that incarnation.  Each time I died there was no pain.  On some occasions there was pressure at the point of being struck or shot, on others there was difficulty breathing, many of them held a sense of surprise, but never was there anything sustained afterwards except relief and an overpowering sense of accomplishment. 

The human view of death is that transitioning is considered a tragedy...but we are spiritual beings inhabiting a temporary human body that will carry us in this illusion of third dimensional separateness.  Our eternal souls obviously consider living temporary lifetimes here on earth and elsewhere a valid and worthy exercise and they certainly have a bigger perspective than do we. I try to focus on living this life and following the clues or breadcrumbs my soul left to help me figure out my lifeplan...I don't fear death as it will occur and any effort placed in fearing it is wasted energy.

Over the last century I have died three times (1905, 1919, 1943) and in reviewing those lives (the first two due to head trauma in car accidents and the last due to attracting enemy machine gun bullets) the car accidents resulted in great surprise at the sense of the body turning off...some faint regret, but a strong sense of accomplishment and relief, while the war death felt inevitable...the moment I was struck I was only conscious of instant pressure and almost an ejection from the body, and the sense of having fulfilled the obligation and time for the next life. 

I know people now, both friends and loved ones, who were with me in each of those previous incarnations, and I have a strong sense of others who were there with me, so we are all in this together...and if that is the case, and I believe it is...again, what is to fear?

I would also refer you to the excellent missive Beau wrote some time ago likening our reinicarnation and subsequent death to actors on the stage, and the curtain falling is our death, only to plan the next play, or lifetime.

Seeking...that is just it...those past lives are not lost.  The experiences they had are a part of me, and part of this "awakening to who you really are" is finding how to access those past lives and the wealth of information they carry available within you.  Think of them as characters in a play...and your soul is the actor.  The actor plays hundreds of roles over his lifetime, while your soul has hundreds of lives, each one a different role.  The actor has some roles that have greater impact than others, but they are still each his roles, while the soul does the same with lives.  Each soul/actor is a "me", and each role he plays is "me" as well...the actor infuses each character or role with a living being acting in accordance with the script, and the soul infuses each incarnate body with a living entity acting in accordance with its lifeplan...and like the actor leaving the script and extemporaneizing, the soul's incarnate body can exercise free will and deviate from the lifeplan.  Regardless, each character my soul plays is me, and the other me's are still here with me.   

I don't feel my past incarnations resulted in a loss of self, but rather they contributed to the knowledge and experience banks of my overall self, or my soul.  Since 1905 I have added Vinson, Vinson (nephew of the previous Vinson...yes, my surviving sister became my mother), Steven and now Scott to my overall self...I am all of them...they are all here with me, thus no loss.

This works well for me...I hope this helps.

Hi Seeking, in short the reliving of the moment of death is an opportunity to gain understanding...about both the cause of death as well as everything leading up to it.  Fear is not present, nor is pain and anguish...remember you are seeing things as your soul sees them...a life is an opportunity to learn and experience...the soul lives forever and the human sense of tragedy does not exists for souls as nothing is irredeemable or uncorrectible. 

Each death I have reviewed included my emotions at the time and the understanding of the situation that caused the death.  They have combined both a view through the eyes of my former body as well as a bird's eye view, simultaneously which is cool.  It wasn't like reliving a horror scene, as there was a tremendous sense of love and compassion and no focus on blood and guts...again only the body has passed and the soul is pulling itself together and cataloging the details (so I could review it now!).  Emotions of others were clear, but not so much in a sympathetic sense because on the other side everyone is aware they will all be together soon anyway.  I have also felt a sense of judgment towards some of these incarnations when their actions have been selfish...apparently that is something I am working on during this incarnation.      

Physical pain was negligible in each...in fact the most I have felt has been pressure on the body and maybe a sense of shock.  It is my belief we are spared the memory of the bodily pain at the time of death.  Actually the worst death I experienced was one in which I was justifiably murdered with poison...as I watched myself writhing in death throes, I felt some sense of my own stomach rolling which was a little upsetting.  One of the easiest deaths I felt, besides the times I simply did not wake up, was an occasion where I bled to death.  Again, the death of machine gun fire was only sharp pressure and instantaneous removal from the body.  Easy every time.   

The timing of the transition in each life seems to determine the amount of sadness involved with the death.  In the Vinson deaths, one was aged 17 and the other 9, there was a very brief sense of longing, while with the 17 year old, I was actually angry at dying when I did...despite my lifeplan I had alot to live for!  The feeling of sadness seems to be sourced through the feelings of the survivors...souls are empathetic and the extreme emotions prevalent in incarnate beings sprays the area with high energy, so if a death was not expected there can be significant pain through that emotion broadcast by surviving loved ones.   

Once again, in my experience, the most significant sensation felt at every death has been a combination of relief and satisfaction...the other feelings seem to be determined by the circumstances, but nothing supercedes relief and satisfaction. 

You could certainly try a past life hypnotic regression to locate the source of that fear...although you might be surprised to find it based in this lifetime.  A friend felt the same way you do about death and his was based in a rough childhood wherein he was adopted by a family member who mistreated him and he continually pined for his siblings in another location...the thought of them was his anchor and when he finally reunited with them he "bound himself to them with hoops of steel".  His fear was one of a repeated abandonment by those whom he loved...and it affected him into adulthood until it was located and eliminated through a regression.

In reality, we cannot be abandoned...our higher selves and soulmates are around us all the time, and we will not be conscious of it until we rejoin them on the other side.

I hope this helps.