Greetings,

From time to time we discuss wishes, wants, needs, etc.
From experiences we've shared and those I've racked up on my own, I'm developing a viewpoint on this.
I'd really apreciate your comments, corrections, etc ! Have fun with it!  ----

In 'The Secret' and in Bruce's writing, people tell of needing something and then having it made available to them. It seems to me that there are some conditions that have to be met before this can happen. Have you noticed any typical detours etc before your wishes can be made a part of daily reality ?

--  you have to have a rather clear flow of energy that isn't strongly blocked at any point.
( If you block and therefore hold the energy at some lower level, the outcome manifests at a lower level than you requested.)

-- you can have no conflicting wishes in mind at the same time.
(This one may take some soul-searching to find the opposing need/wish.)
An aspect of this one is that you might not even be consciously aware that you are working on a particular issue that is in conflict with your new/current wish. 'Higher Self'/ Oversoul seems to govern which comes first.

-- wishes (needs, etc) take some time to manifest after you state your intention to get to them or they to you, so patience has to be a part of the process. For ex., after Bruce determined he needed a certain amount of $$, he didn't then go rob a bank to get it. He waited until the opportunity presented itself and then took it, even in the face of comments that might have turned him away from that possibility. (I'm thinking of his conversation with a man who said he had not posted a job notice, even though Bruce had 'seen' it.)

Do these seem valid?

Thanks for reading,  Bets

Hi Bets,

Hmmm… thought provoking questions you bring up to ponder…

This sounds a bit like the law of attraction so widely spoken of. I read the other day somewhere that if there really is a law of attraction, there’s also a law of repulsion meaning that there are some things we are attracted to and others that we repulse. I’d say what we’re attracted to, our wishes have much to do with our ideas about the things we want to create in our life, the things we focus on and think about on a fairly regular basis are how we create our life to be the way it is.

This also reminds me of having mixed intentions or cross-purposes when we don’t seem to create the things we really want. This is usually a result of thinking that has hidden self-judgments and fear. When for example we think our focused thoughts are rational, but in creeps thoughts, which give us, excuses, reasons of why not. i.e. I’m too busy, I don’t have time, and so on, which all serve to basically sabotage our effort to create the thing we want or wish for.

Life seems to always be presenting us with opportunities. Any more I try to follow my heart. If it sounds like fun, something I can really get enthusiastic about, then I know I’m on the right track. It’s more about the process than the end result and what I learn along the way.

Love, Kathy

I think our fleeting wishes go a lot deeper than what may appear on the surface. Take for example one that Matthew mentions: winning the lottery. Since the person likely knows the odds against winning, what is the person really wishing for? Maybe he/she doesn’t like their job and the deeper wish is to find fulfilling work to do. Or perhaps the person has a deeper desire to travel, or just wants to be able to pay the bills without having to work three jobs, or maybe the person sees the suffering of others such as starving children and wants to be able to help on a larger scale, etc.

The bottom line to all wishes is the desire to create things in our life that we believe would provide us with love, joy, health, and well-being. We all want to create things that we consider to be better than what we had before. We all have the desire to create improvement in ourselves and in the lives of those we love. And in our attempt to create what we wish for we either get the results we want or we get reasons of why not. There really are only these two groups and our reasons of why we didn’t get the results we wanted serves as a tricky form of denial that we apply to all aspects of our life. This form of denial is how we limit ourselves and keep boundaries in place. To reach beyond our boundaries we must understand how we set them up in the first place.

Our reasons of why not provide us with excuses, rationalizations, alibis, and justifications for not fulfilling our wishes, wants and needs. These reasons are basically stories we tell ourselves as a way of explaining why we didn’t accomplish what we had set out to do, why we didn’t get the results we wanted. Sometimes we even convince ourselves that our reasons of why we didn’t get the results we wanted are almost as good as what we wanted in the first place. These reasons of why not serve to help us avoid something deep within us that we are afraid of. Otherwise there would be no need for us to create our stories of why not. We would simply realize we had no intention to do it in the first place.

Take the person that buys lottery tickets because they feel trapped in an unfulfilling job that doesn’t pay all the bills or leave anything leftover to save, or perhaps even pay for health insurance or whatever. The desire for financial security is honorable but that person doesn’t recognize his/her own ability to fulfill the underlying wish or need, which is to focus on finding a more fulfilling job. Some of the reasons why not this person comes up with that prevents this accomplishment might be things like: I’m not educated enough, I’m too dumb… not good enough… too tired… too busy… too weak… don’t really care anymore… it doesn’t really matter that much… and on and on…

Sure sometimes we really are too tired or have higher priorities, but if we make a habit of using an excuse to avoid doing what we really want, then this indicates underlying fears that need to be realized and cleared because it is the underlying fearful belief that keeps us from creating what we truly want or need to improve our life situation. We need to stop making up explanations of why not, then feel the fear and do it anyway. Sometimes this involves asking, “What am I afraid of?” Let the question sink down deep inside to your deepest feelings until you feel the fear, then recognize the fear that is preventing you from getting the results you really want.

After spending some time learning to recognize how we create mixed intentions and effectively impair ourselves with reasons of why not, the easiest way to make a change is to simply be the change we want to happen. Clear intent is a state of being.

Love, Kathy

Good posts! Not much to add.

I've read two books from Vadim Zeland, "Transsurfing", and what is emphasized there is the "let go" after you've seen your wish as already accomplished. The author states that the higher the importance is for you to receive your wish, the more unlikely the manifestation becomes.

Bruce talks about the results after stating a wish, but having doubts (a not totally pure intent), it would create the wish itself, but as well the doubts. He sees it positive, when you see your doubts manifesting, then you know your wish will manifest, too  .

Spooky

Oh yeah there were a couple of other things from the Abraham stuff that I think are interesting.

Abraham has this scale of things from very negative to very positive. You rate how you feel. I don't have that book with me but I think you could make your own scale of things you may have felt, from utter dispair to utter joy, from say -10 to +10. OK so then if you are feeling depressed, the suggestion in the book is to not try to visualize being joyful, because there is a big gap between depression and joy. The suggestion is to visualize being at the next step up. So you don't try to go from -8 to +4. You try to go from -8 to -7 or -6 or something reasonable. That may mean going from depression to anger, which is higher up. And I know nobody really wants to be angry. But that is an improvement over depression. So you are one step closer to joy.

That is just so practical to me that I had to bring it up. Maybe it is too early to ask for joy. But you can ask to be better. Abraham...or Gerry...suggests using the affirmation "I want to feel better." That just makes so much sense.

So that reminds me of something Stuart Wilde used to write about in visualizing. Say you have a crummy old car, and what you really want is ...a Rolls-Royce. Well, maybe it will work better to go from your crummy old rusted car to something more modest first..a Cadillac...or these days, a Prius maybe.

So what do you think of that idea, of working up to your ultimate goal in increments?

I think it is always easier to wish for what is closest alined to your energetic range.

Vibration is everything in this universe. One vibration, always alines better, with a vibration of the same type.

So, if you want to move up, you should ask that which brings you 1 vibration higher/better/more harmonious. Then learn to be steady and stable, and then start the next step.