I have some very close and longstanding devout evangelical Christian friends with whom I often exchange views - mine coming from a strongly Buddhist/gnostic perspective.
They are great people, and we find ourselves agreeing time and time again on what is required of us in life, and why this may be.
But the factor that time and again causes some issues is their emphasis on (and my refusal to buy in to) absolutist belief in place of the application of teachings/intellectual understanding and intuitive insight in life to generate experiential knowledge. They insist on the literal existence of the Devil as a self existent objective reality, on literal interpretation of the Bible as the actual word of God, on the rightness and reality of both divine and civil punishment and retribution, and that to be 'saved' one must regardless of anything else hold certain key beliefs.
I regularly find myself on the receiving end of initiatives which start from the thought that 'it's such a pity that a nice person like you can't be saved while holding those beliefs', 'would you not x,y,z..... I also find that they simply refuse out of a fear of being led astray to read anything that I might offer them with a slightly Buddhist flavour. (I think they justify the 'risk' of talking to me on this stuff on the basis that I need setting straight)
Now they may of course be right, but not so far as I can detect. I find a considerable disjoint between their mostly enlightened behaviours, and their beliefs. What I find too is that these absolute beliefs are a significant barrier to the exchange of knowledge and insight, and a potential cause of friction if one was to be inclined to get upset about this stuff.
It seems to me that this sort of somewhat fundamentalist insistence on 'our way or the highway' is fairly typical of many Christian groupings (even our local irish protestant rector for example blew his cover by denouncing Buddhism as a cult in a Christmas sermon a few years ago) , and is a big cause of issues such as those that have arisen in this thread.
Point being (at least from my perspective
). None of us has the right to dictate others' beliefs. God doesn't force anything. We were given free will for a reason. No human tradition or handed down belief system (they to varying degrees contain truths, but none is complete and all require interpretation) comes close to describing the totality of the territory - gnosis (put another way the ability to pilot one's own soul) follows from mixing taught or otherwise accessed knowledge with life experience.
Our task is surely to grope towards insight and light - the work of road testing spiritual perspectives while progressing along the spiritual path is a key part of this evolution.
We may get it wrong on occasion, but (a) we can rely on forgiveness and love and (b) our own (grace assisted) compass is pretty effective anyway. There are those that decide to ignore the compass, but absolutist beliefs won't help them much anyway.
Which means that we surely stand to gain rather than to lose through the respectful sharing of perspectives between traditions??? Why should this be a cause for offence?