hi all. never done this before so here goes.. i lost my partner 2 months ago thru suicide. i knew it was coming but if a person has a definite idea of death and does not fear it, has many external stressors and childhood negativity and no strength left.......he was a damaged but a good man. anyway, he left a letter saying he loved me and would continue to do so for the rest of my life but couldnt go on any longer. Does anyone have an opinion as to where he has gone? Is he in the afterlife being counselled by helpers to understand his actions before being brought to his true spirit place? would he be reincarnated on earth to try again?I have smelt his aftershave once and felt him hold my hand and check im still wearing his rings in a dream, is that for real u think? Im new to this subject but have an open mind and wish to find something to believe in. his departure overwhelms me and i need hope, knowledge and peace.

Greetings Muffin,
I'm very happy for you that you've already heard from your partner. Your sensitivity to him will be part of the help he receives, but there are many others on the other side who will work with him also.  Don't blame him if later his contact with you is not so noticeable, as he has processes to go though also.
If you'll read through people's notes here, you'll find many who go through similiar losses and gain a greater spiritual understanding as a result. You are not alone.
bets

I believe in a Swedenborgian perspective of the afterlife; so these pages explain how I see marriage after death, reincarnation, and suicide:

http://www.egogahan.com/Spiritual%20Issues/facts.htm
http://www.egogahan.com/Spiritual%20Issues/rein.html
http://www.egogahan.com/Spiritual%20Issues/suicide.html
http://www.egogahan.com/Soulmates-NJ.html

I hope these are helpful. =)

Disclaimer: These pages all come from the same site, I didn't make that site, and the views expressed on that site may or may not be my views. I also respect the fact that others may have differing views on these topics.

Hi Muffin
I regret your loss and hope that you soon will be able to resolve it comfortably.

There doesn't seem to be any specific "where" for people to go, as much as a change of "how" they remain here. That you could smell his scent and feel his presence indicates that he hasn't "gone" anywhere - he just changed the way he does his thing.

Usually suicides involve a lot of negative feelings, and often guilt, fear and anger that someone would abandon us. Without going into the thousands of possibilities, the basic solution to all of this is love. Your ex-partner chose to continue in a path that many will criticize, but his basic needs remain much as they were. He needs freedom to continue along his way, meaning that he does Not need anyone clinging to him. This is one way that we create entities out of those whom we love, and the process only slows things down.

Families are an example. Often loss of a deeply loved Mom or Grandma leads to children clinging to these souls so tightly that they take up residence in the kids' minds, and can't get on with life (death is just a phase of lif) until the kids finally turn them loose.

Instead, total love, without any strings or provisions, will provide the support to continue into the "spirit world" as himself, and thus the chance to learn and grow. We generally recognize this as "going into the Light", which is a metaphor for returning to awareness of God. As a spirit he will then be able to return to spend time with you if you wish.

In the interim, if you want to find out how he's doing, I'd suggest a simple meditation in which you relax away all the thoughts of the day etc, and then jut ask him. - And wait for a response. It may be immediate and obvious, or it may be delayed and obscure. It will probably not be exactly what you expect. In any case, send love, and the rest will work out OK.

If you want more, look through some of Bruce's writings. Bruce is a medium, and has a definite skill in this area. His books give sound advice and techniques.

May love find you,
dave