OK gang...I have been reading this board for 2 years now  - yes I am one of the many readers that linger around. I have tried several times to make contact with a loved one that has crossed over two years ago.  Nothing on the scale that many of you do but I have had dreams...where my loved one is in my dream and I know it feels so real and these type of dreams bring me comfort. however after reading this entire board over the holiday break I have thoughts that I would like to be able to make sure that my friend is ok.  Here is my experience, which has left me thinking I am not very good at this and need help if I really want to continue.

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I layed down in my bed after quieting the room. I pulled the covers up to my neck, closed my eyes and almost immediately the days events started flashing through my mind. Knowing I needed to clear out the "mess" a thought came to me to count to 100. 1 2 3........60. I started feeling myself calming down so I started to think about my loved one, the good times we had together and picked an event where just the two of us were together to talk...next thing I know I am surrounded by a bunch of people talking to me but I can't make out what they are saying. I asked them if they could direct me to my friend.  The room or area we were in starts to get bigger and this person appears right in front of me...I yell out my friends name and this lady just smiles at me doesn't say a word and we start moving even though I don't feel my feet moving. We go out into a street and this lady sent  a thought message and it was something like feel the power of you...I was like what the heck  ??? as I got closer to pepple they seemed to back away. I break away from this lady however this whole time I continue to ask for my friend "has anyone seen her" "direct me to her" nothing...!

I look up and I see this huge building...someone enters it so I start to go in that direction and all of sudden it is storming. I try to get in the building but then....I semi wake up.  Tell myself to go back next thing I know I am getting the chills and I feel like I am going out of body. I see my room and next I am upside down hanging from the ceiling. Then as quick as that I am sailing through the air over a beautiful blue sky with a wooded area below me.  I was "flying" extremely fast and felt like I was being pushed.  I know I yelled out I was getting alittle scared.  Then just like that I wake up...never making contact with my friend.

Frustrated...

Should I being doing something different? Why wouldn't I immediatly go to my friend who I was seeking? Could the lady been a guide that I blew off? Should I try not to be so pushy and just go with the flow? I am also thinking that I might just have to contact someone who knows how to do this better than I. Your thoughts would be appreciated.

Cypercat

that was weird y'all. I wrote a slash and a "w" like this: (I'm on a mac) laff/w me  and I got red type and my name alysia instead of the word me, and I also got italics. so now this must be an internet ghost   oh well, looks good from here.

Alysia,
Thank you for your reply.  Hey I am glad that others have felt like I have and hopefully I make the contact with my friend and actually know it.

Thanks again,

Cypercat

Dave,
Thanks for your reply. You bring up an interesting point, one that I have been thinking about for awhile and that is "Not all loved ones are always willing to be available"  I guess this could throw a wrench into things...well at least for me.  I don't think my friend would be approving of this type of contact if she was still alive.  Her religious beliefs would limit her in accepting this type of communication.      

I really do have my work cut out for me.

Cypercat

Thje blinding flash of light is often called "lightenings" (eg in the Hatha Yoga Pradipika) and is a sign that you have contacted the "Light" in the "Upper Astral". It's a sign of high development to get there. Unfortunately, most of us have another agenda and side trip out of it by reattachingt to either Lower Astral or Mental levels.

That flash of light is definitely NOT a malevolent energy. However, for those who have guilt, regrets or whatever, it is like any enlightening experience, bringing up a strong sense of "oops, I think I screwed up". This kind of regret is why it's dangerous to use drugs to do yoga, 'cause you can't turn it off and back out. (I speak from experience.)

If you go back through the same procedure, focus on joining with your loved ones through love, not pleasure (that's the attachment maker), you should have success. When I work with people, I usually find prayer (asking God, ie the Oneness, to direct me) useful in orientation so I don't side trip. Another approach is to find a reason that what you're doing will benefit everyone. For example, how will it benefit both you and your loved ones to contact them?