The Fall Equinox 2004 transcript had just been posted up on Jon C Fox's Hilarion.com over a week back, thanks to volunteer transcriber Lori Dunn. Herein, Hilarion speaks on the mourning over the death of a loved one, alternatively titled "Wanting Someone Vs Loving Someone". Realize then, that there is an important lesson here, not just for the scenario physical death of a loved one, but as well for the similar emotional pain over the 'loss' or 'separation' from a loved one under any context of relationship.

From the  Hilarion Fall Equinox 2004 channeling :


Now this brings us to a powerful resistance so many of you still have around death. Not death on a global or massive scale. It is that which you still do not understand and that which you are still struggling with through the news and recent events. Rather, we speak of death of particular individuals. Friends, loved ones, teachers, beings who have helped in the past for you to understand and awaken. Disha, a beautiful helpful being working now from the other side granted a powerful opportunity for new energy for new awareness, understanding. Others touched by the potential to receive and work with various energies at the same time you in clinging to the desire for someone else to remain physical refuse to glimpse and receive the positive helpful energy now available. This is true generally when you look at the lives of beings who have achieved some degree of spiritual awakening. Compassion, ability to assist, benefit to others. That when they leave this earth. Often when they leave suddenly it is from the soul’s point of view appropriate

It is the place where they come to more opportunity to assist, more availability to train to work with others. To work with you on many levels through your dreams, through your projections in consciousness, through your awareness of guiding principles and many other aspects. It must be understood that as you approach this and are willing to get out of the way to stop resisting and notice the positive helpful energy that you can be bathed with a loving, powerful light. It is a subtle light from someone who is not in a physical body but it can be a very helpful loving light nevertheless.

But as long as you them move consciously to a place where the grieving energy wished it were different you block the opportunity to receive from these beings. Now at this stage in humanity’s development it would be very difficult to suggest that you see from all levels that the transition of an individual is an entirely positive aspect. We cannot ask you to give up your grief, your emotion, your holding on to the person. Even though we can see how it dramatically slows down their progress on the other side, how it prevents them from transmitting to you the important messages that are possible, how such energy as a positive, helpful, loving level is indeed reduced by your almost immature clinging to wanting it the way it was.

Now for many of you who see teachers or higher evolved ones passing, that is easy. But when it is a loved one. A mother, a father, a child someone in your family, someone you are very close to. This is a powerful attribute. For the one simple reason again of your genetic programming. You have the survival instinct powerfully programmed into your being. You will survive. It is built right into you from the moment that you are alive. So you resonate with all others and when they leave it is as if suddenly that survival instinct has failed. This pushes you to a survival place , un-consciously your very loving connection with the other person naturally brings all survival issues up for you. Not just about your own personal life, your own willingness to grow or survive but how they suddenly no longer have that survival aspect and it makes no sense. What did they do wrong? How did that energy shift? For a time your understanding about this your intelligence about this about others matters will not affect this. It will simply be there, a powerful energy. But if you can remember a previous life in which you left this earth. In which you them moved to a higher vibrational reality, a Summerland, a place of love, you may then ease off a little bit on your own grief.

Why then, for instance would you want the loved one who has recently passed to come back? When the place that they are in now is so much better. So much more wonderful, so much more loving, so much more ecstatic than being in the physical body. This is a difficult question and when you ask it of course, you naturally recognize your own selfishness your own willingness to want something for someone, or want to be with someone. Your own lack of love (ie. loving acceptance) around your issues and other matters. And can realize that it has nothing to do with the other person, it is your own loneliness or other limiting ideas surrounding this. Your own willingness to confront the fear inside your own, your own willingness to recognize the deeper truth that you are confronting. You are not alone in this. The moment you come to the realization of this all the people who have passed on who love you can be with you. Sharing with you the positive helpful energy. Sharing with you the opportunity to receive their love.

Loving is not wanting something. Wanting something is not loving. Realize that they are different. And when you love that person can you also say that what you want for them is what is best for them. What is highest for them? Not necessarily what you want. If that is so, "I love you" meaning "I want you back with me", you then begin to realize that you are really not loving them. These are important issues to look at around death because from the individual it shares itself with the family, the community and ultimately with all of humanity. And this can clear the way for deeper awareness of the multi-dimensional reality of the way in which the non-physical beings work with you. The positive ones, the helpers and also the negative ones. Those that don’t know they have died who are unconsciously influencing you who are projecting energy for their own needs.

The beautiful thing about this equation is for a large extent, even though the nonphysical beings outnumber you nine to one; being in the physical body you have way more power. You are able to do far more, accomplish more, heal more and work with your energy. But the negative part to this is if that energy is based on fear, harm, anger, struggle, unconsciousness, consolation, such an energy will in itself bear fruit, have powerful effects in the world and continue the paths of resistance and difficulty. At the positive level though if such is towards enlightenment, towards the aspect of helping others, of deeper assistance, and especially towards attributes of greater clarification for you personally, this also has a profound affect and can shift things on the planet.


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Thank you, Kyo.  This is an interesting way to view death, loss, separation.  It is often difficult for me as well as others to remember that "clinging to" is not loving.  When we let go of our "survival instinct" and let life move through us, bringing to us what is important for our growth, and when we express a love which is not grasping we will find our freedom and our happiness there.  This is a lesson to be relearned every day of our lives, so again, thank you.

love, blink