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Is my granny still here, or am I cracking up??
Nov 18^th, 2013 at 6:16am

Hi there, I just joined this forum in hopes that someone could shed some light on this topic, or provide some sort of insight. My granny died on October 20th of this year, after a seemingly unending decline in health. I was very close to her, and we considered ourselves to be best friends. As hard as it was to see her pass, I was relieved that she was no longer suffering. My entire life (I'm 25) she has lived with my family, and our rooms have always been right next to each other. As her health got worse, I would often stand just inside her door, listening to her breathing to make sure she was okay.

Now, onto the strange things of late...

About a week ago, I was walking down the hallway between our rooms, and gasped when I realized that I DISTINCTLY heard the sound of her breathing, and sleeping soundly. I stood there a moment to be certain of what I was hearing, and I am absolutely positive of what I heard. There were no TVs on, no air-conditioner running, nothing. Once I was positive, I actually got quite frightened, and went right back into my room, my heart pounding out of my chest.

What prompted me to seek out this site is the "interaction" I just had with my granny while I was tidying in her bedroom. I didn't actually *hear* any of this, but I felt like there was some kind of string or something connecting me to her presence somewhere above me, like a kite. I can't really explain it, but here is what I wrote down:

I'm sorry for ever getting angry with you, and not spending enough time with you while you were in the hospital.

It's okay, you're not to worry about what's passed. But it's up to you now to look after your mum and keep the family together.

I'm going to file a complaint at that hospital for how that one nurse treated you. It was so wrong.

Quite right!

I miss you so much.

I know, I miss you too darling.

(I've been involved in a silly and ongoing argument with my older brother for a while now, and this is what she said on that:)

You must let bygones be bygones, and if he wants to go on, let him go on to his heart's content. Just take no notice, and move on. You see you've got to, for my Janie (her daughter/my mom). She's lost her mum, and needs her daughter now more than ever.

I'm so sorry I spent so much time with my new boyfriend, when I could have been visiting you instead.

Shh, shh. Now you mustn't cry. We're all young and in love at some time. Just be sure he's good to you.

I will. I miss you.

And I you, but I have to go now, but I'll still be here. You'll always be my tuppence thruppence (her nickname for me since I was a baby).

Please, if anyone has even the tiniest suggestion or comment on this, I would so appreciate it. I just feel so lost since she died, and I'm confused by how real this all is. Is there any chance she's really communicating with me? It wouldn't be the first time (not by a LONG shot) that odd psychic-like stuff has gone on with me, but that is another story entirely. Thank you.

PS: My granny is/was English, hence the occasionally unusual vocabulary.

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Reply #1 - Nov 21^st, 2013 at 2:13am

Bunny wrote on Nov 18^th, 2013 at 6:16am:

Hi there, I just joined this forum in hopes that someone could shed some light on this topic, or provide some sort of insight. My granny died on October 20th of this year, after a seemingly unending decline in health. I was very close to her, and we considered ourselves to be best friends. As hard as it was to see her pass, I was relieved that she was no longer suffering. My entire life (I'm 25) she has lived with my family, and our rooms have always been right next to each other. As her health got worse, I would often stand just inside her door, listening to her breathing to make sure she was okay.

Now, onto the strange things of late...

About a week ago, I was walking down the hallway between our rooms, and gasped when I realized that I DISTINCTLY heard the sound of her breathing, and sleeping soundly. I stood there a moment to be certain of what I was hearing, and I am absolutely positive of what I heard. There were no TVs on, no air-conditioner running, nothing. Once I was positive, I actually got quite frightened, and went right back into my room, my heart pounding out of my chest.

What prompted me to seek out this site is the "interaction" I just had with my granny while I was tidying in her bedroom. I didn't actually *hear* any of this, but I felt like there was some kind of string or something connecting me to her presence somewhere above me, like a kite. I can't really explain it, but here is what I wrote down:

I'm sorry for ever getting angry with you, and not spending enough time with you while you were in the hospital.

It's okay, you're not to worry about what's passed. But it's up to you now to look after your mum and keep the family together.

I'm going to file a complaint at that hospital for how that one nurse treated you. It was so wrong.

Quite right!

I miss you so much.

I know, I miss you too darling.

(I've been involved in a silly and ongoing argument with my older brother for a while now, and this is what she said on that:)

You must let bygones be bygones, and if he wants to go on, let him go on to his heart's content. Just take no notice, and move on. You see you've got to, for my Janie (her daughter/my mom). She's lost her mum, and needs her daughter now more than ever.

I'm so sorry I spent so much time with my new boyfriend, when I could have been visiting you instead.

Shh, shh. Now you mustn't cry. We're all young and in love at some time. Just be sure he's good to you.

I will. I miss you.

And I you, but I have to go now, but I'll still be here. You'll always be my tuppence thruppence (her nickname for me since I was a baby).

Please, if anyone has even the tiniest suggestion or comment on this, I would so appreciate it. I just feel so lost since she died, and I'm confused by how real this all is. Is there any chance she's really communicating with me? It wouldn't be the first time (not by a LONG shot) that odd psychic-like stuff has gone on with me, but that is another story entirely. Thank you.

PS: My granny is/was English, hence the occasionally unusual vocabulary.

Hey Girl! What a great post..I'm sure you'll get more replies to your physical-astral adventure from Bruce's afterlife following. Blessing and Love. Carl and Family.

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Reply #2 - Nov 21^st, 2013 at 7:31am

I agree with Carl that this is a great post. Most of us here feel that it is your own "knowing" that matters, but your reactions seem "normal" to me, whatever normal is. What I, personally, would take away from this experience is a delicious sense of reassurance that my grandmother lives on and still cares for me in another realm of being. That is something to treasure. Additionally, you received beautiful guidance. Thank you for sharing this, so that others may have the courage to believe that all is not lost when our loved ones must leave their bodies here and move on.

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Reply #3 - Nov 22^nd, 2013 at 1:16pm

Hi Bunny,

Yes this is what it's like to have real communication. It can come in various forms, sometimes not what we'd expect, but it's really that simple. What I believe and what I always tell people is that it's more important how something makes you feel then whether it's real or not. After all, there are many ways to define "real".

One way that I use the "is this real or not" question is to ask myself if I knew I was making it up, or was I trying to make it up. Usually you know when you're trying to do that. Also, these kinds of communications and visits usually happen when we least expect it, like when we're doing something and our mind is focused on something else. You said you were tidying her bedroom. That kind of mindless busywork is great for allowing the mind to be open to communication.

You can also validate if something is real to you by how unexpected and genuine the experience felt to you. Did you suddenly feel a change like feeling her presence was not there, then it was there, then felt it change again afterwards? I know I've had my dad visit me several times, but one striking experience was when I literally felt like he had literally just physically walked into the kitchen where I was standing. It was the same feeling it would feel like if he had been physically there.

We can also gauge "feeling real" by how it affects us emotionally. The expression of "being moved" is what this is, when something comes over you and "changes" something inside you. Usually, that's not something you can just fake and fool yourself with. It can be intense, or surprising, or unexpected. Know what I mean? You yourself have to decide if the experience is real to you or not.

One thing I can suggest, since you said you've had a lot of psychic stuff going on with you, is that you should allow yourself to believe that these kinds of things ARE real. Don't waste time wondering if it's real, just accept that it is. Believe it. Let it make you smile and feel good. Write about it. Or tell someone close to you about it, so that they can share and marvel in the experience with you. It's a good gauge for what feels right to you and what doesn't. You'll probably find it easier to have more experiences like this.

If we're faking stuff to ourselves, we usually know it. If on the other hand real experiences continue to happen because we accept, believe, and allow them to (in other words, our doubt isn't blocking them out), then we find that things happen in unexpected ways, when we least expect them to. The feelings are real. We're moved. It changes us for the better. We feel grateful, loving, appreciative. It makes life better. You get the idea. If it were so easy to fool ourselves, we'd do it all the time and would never have sadness, fear, doubt, questions, or struggles. I mean, think of how wonderful it is to feel in love. I think it's the best feeling in the whole world. If you could fake it, it wouldn't mean the same thing would it. So you gotta ask yourself, and trust yourself, when you evaluate what something feels to you, what it means, and if it's real or not. That is of course, assuming you're a normal, healthy person, which I assume you are. Believe me, I've had to question my sanity at times! I'm glad I've come a long way in what I've learned about psychic stuff and the spiritual and paranormal. It's greatly changed and improved my life. Wink

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Reply #4 - Nov 26^th, 2013 at 10:40am

Bunny,

From own experience I'd say your description of contact with Granny bears the characteristics of real contact. I understand your concern about "cracking up." So little is taught about the reality of our afterlife existence that when we come face to face with the direct experience of it we often don't recognize or understand what's happening. Worse yet, others in our lives who have never had such an experience tend to speak out of the beliefs they were taught by others who haven't any experience to base those beliefs on. In the choice between accepting the uninformed beliefs of others, and beliefs borne of my own, direct experience, I will chose direct experience.

If I were the kind to offer advice it would be to continue following your own experience with an open, non-judgmental frame of mind and discover where your experience leads you.

Be aware that Granny may give you some bits of information you have no way of knowing except by your communication you are having with her know. If you can verify the information is true it may give you further confidence that your experience is real. She may visit you during dreams.

Vicky's post above is from the voice of experience and I trust her take on things.

Bruce

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Reply #5 - Dec 4^th, 2013 at 9:25am

Bunny,

What an inspiring story.

How fortunate you are to have such a loving grandmother and to be able to receive her message which is so loving and sensible.

Your story reminds me that death is no barrier to love. And your Grandmother's words remind us of our priorities in life.

I saw your post a week or so ago and thought I would come back and say a few words.

I presume you have a printed photograph of your Granny; positioned where you might notice it now and then.

Thankfulness for our blessings opens the heart and lifts the spirits, it even clears the mind.

It seems you have good advice and encouragement in the posts above. If you are interested in my suggestion too, then I would encourage a few moments daily practice of thankfulness, or whenever you think to do it. Its quite simple to do; just say thank you, with a hand on the heart in the middle of the chest.

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