Dear Shelley,

Love connects us no matter where we are.  All we have to do is think of that person with love in our hearts and they know it.  I hope that eases you mind a bit.  I lost my husband of 47 years --- seven years ago--- and still everyday we connect with an 'I love you'.  It may be for only a moment, but it happens. 

Sometimes small signs like butterflies or birds pay a visit.  It could be almost anything, but it will be for you. 

Love does not die because a body does.  Love continues.

I hope this helps,
Baroness T'ressa

Hi Shelley, and welcome.  I think this is a great question. 

I'm so sorry you lost your boyfriend.  But don't waste time wondering if he can find you, he can.  And you can reach out to him as well.  The physical plane's laws and rules don't apply.  All you need to reach out to him and connect is a thought and feeling and intention.  Sometimes you may feel just one of those, and sometimes you may feel a combination of them.  What I mean is, you may think "I'd like to reach out and connect with him."  That's an intention.  Sometimes our intentions work as a process before things come into being.  Or you may have a strong emotion or have a sudden thought about him pop into your mind.  This is how "connecting" works.  It can be a slower process or something instantaneous. 

A method I use to make a connection and contact is by imagining the person is right here with me.  I'll bring up a memory or visual image or feeling and focus on it until I am feeling the feeling of their presence.  I don't worry or question whether it's true or real contact, I just enjoy the feeling as if it IS real, then I say (or think) whatever I want to say to them.  It usually brings up strong emotions but especially the feeling of love.  It's such a magical way of raising your consciousness--through emotion.  Trust me, this will definitely bridge contact with your loved one. 

Plus, the good thing about this method is that in raising your consciousness you're pulling yourself away from the focus of lower-consciousness emotions and thoughts, like fear, anger, regret, disappointment, etc. 

Sometimes the "results" you get are not what you'd expect.  Sometimes it's just an overwhelming feeling that will come over you, like contentment, love, validation, etc.  The more you focus on these positive higher-consciousness feelings, the more you'll notice and feel actual signs of contact and connection.  I really do believe this.  I know how hard it is!  And it does take some patience, practice, and perseverance. 

Vicky