Dear All,

I have been inactive for quite a long time, mostly due to my dad's illness, and coz of life's grind. Not sure many remember me, but thats ok.

My father passed away on 26th september in his sleep. He was suffering from Cancer, and was not doing well at all. He wasnt in physical pain, but had let go of any hopes. Its been 3 days, I havent seen him in my dreams . If i could i would hire a psychic, however, i dont have that kind of money, esp after the amount we spent on dad's treatment. I dont know how to know how hes doing. My belief in the afterlife needs to get strong. . I miss my dad, the thought of spending about 40ish years(unless something picks me off early) fears me SO DAMN MUCH! If an afterlife exists, would he forget me n move on? Damnit i cannot control my emotions. Im sorry, im venting, This was the first death iv seen in my family. I dont know what to do.

knight/seeking answers,

My heart is touched by your loss, and I know how devastating it can be to experience your first personal encounter with the death of a loved one. It was devastating for me, so many years ago, and it was, of course, only the first of more than one which I had to face in this life.

I believe you will have contact from your father, in time, but that it is fine for you to open your heart to him now, let him go with love, as best you can, and grieve when you must. Sometimes life does not seem fair at all, and whatever we feel is perfectly okay. But, let go with love, as you can, and be confident that your father is well in the next world, and that you will hear from him. Be open to any signs, but let them come as they may.

Very simple things that happen can be a kind of voice speaking to us...for instance, a phrase that you hear at a certain time, the song of a bird, the words of a stranger, a book that seems to fall into your hand, a television scene which has a particular meaning to you...it could be anything at all. The ways that spirit communicates with us are impossible to count.

But give some time. It all comes in its own time. No matter how far down you feel that you are, I am certain, more certain than I can express here, that you will be lifted up, and that you will find the peace that you seek.

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After writing the words above I did a brief question and answer tarot reading for you. In good faith. The answers I received indicated that your father is very well, and has achieved victory after a difficult struggle. I asked specifically what he wants you to know, and that is it, that he is in a very good place right now, that he is home, surrounded by all good things. There is no doubt in my mind, after the series of questions I asked, that this is the answer I was given for you. Take from that what you will.

Thank u guys, thanks so much! It was for my dad that i joined this forum about 4 years ago. . I feel so lost. Im living, but the realisation that he wouldnt be there ever, kinda gets me so scared.

Hi Seeking Answers,

It's been nearly 3 years since my dad died.  I've had quite a few visits from/with him.  Some that I feel that I initiated and others that he definitely initiated.  So the way I regard contact is like a phone call.  Sometimes you make the call and have to just leave a message, and wait for a call back.  Other times you get a call when you're not expecting one. 

Whatever you get, my best advice is to just be completely present in the moment.  So let's say you're having a moment where you're missing him so bad your emotions are taking over, and you just wish you could talk and visit.  So then that's what I mean.  Take that moment to just talk..."leave a message".  Say what you want to say, say what you feel.  He'll get the message.  Maybe you're in too much stress and emotion at the moment to know or feel he's there, or to hear him.  But if you believe that he is receiving or will receive your message, and if you open yourself to trusting that you will get a response, then that's the first step to opening up that contact and communication for what we'd call a "real" experience.  Meaning, real enough that you think, "Ok, this is exactly what I needed to make me feel better."  As long as something is meaningful to you, that's all that matters. 

His response back to you will likely come in some form you're not expecting, at a time you're not expecting it.  Those are great because you cannot fool yourself that way.  You won't talk yourself out of it when it catches you off guard. 

If you ever feel your dad's presence in any way, like even if it's just a sudden thought or memory of him, (or even a dream) treat it in the moment as if it's that phone call.  In other words, don't "hang up" by not going along with it.  Just act like it's a sign or message from him, then talk to him, let him know how you're feeling at the moment, say whatever you feel like saying.  Enjoy the feelings that will come over you when you do this.  You'd be amazed at how easy it is to open up that communication. 

I had to gain confidence by trying this, even though it may feel like you're pretending or really stretching your beliefs.  But the more you do it, you'll see how it opens things up.  There's going to be a surprise experience that proves to you you didn't just make something up. 

Vicky