I agree it's often helpful to move out of limited, narrow, and especially indoctrinated beliefs and belief systems, but perhaps sometimes we too quickly throw the baby out with the bath water? 

  Meaning, i don't call myself a "Christian" and there are many religious beliefs i don't believe and other beliefs i do have which aren't part of any organized Christian belief systems, but through internal guidance and experience i've learned that the one called Jesus was the most spiritually mature and intune Consciousness to live in the Earth so far as a fellow human and that a open look and focus on his example and pattern can only be helpful as long as one doesn't fall into belief system traps associated with specific sects, dogma, groups etc.

  Does one necessarily need to look at or consider this particular example to grow, no, but it's been my experience in a number of lives now, that a focus on same can help speed up one's own growth patterns provided one actually tries to live like he did and does. 

  It is a deep and repeated intuition that i've had that we can grow and choose to become just like him, fully and completed attuned to Source and fully consciously aware of the Oneness of life ("physical" and "nonphysical").  Others have completed this process, both in this and especially other systems.

  Along those lines, i've been told by those who have completed this process, that we don't lose all individuality or sense of self when this process is complete, as some believe--just that we know ourselves to be ourselves and yet fully One with all others at the same time. 

  Along the lines that Matthew was more trying to subtly point out, holding on too much to any kind of special relationship or connection with just one being, will and can only limit ones own growth towards that ideal and very destiny of all. 

   I'm fortunate to be in a close, partner type relationship with my "Twin Soul" in this inphysical life this time around, but i know that one of the reasons of why i am, is to help increase my awareness of Oneness with others in a more universal sense.  If i and/or she becomes too focused on each other, i get the sense that one of us will be taken out of the equation so to speak.

  There have been plenty of times wherein we have not been together in the same life, or we were but not in the way we have wanted (as lovers).  There were always reasons why, and greater growth was always the goal.  It's difficult to be in that situation, but greater focus on Universal Love always brings healing, greater awareness, and a peace eventually.