Hi Wonderer,
Wonderer wrote on Feb 23rd, 2012 at 7:33am:Well, thinking further about it, there is nothing loving about pornography. If we act on our own, then it could be an act selfishness, as in, out of context.
Pornography is just a passtime, nothing more nothing less. As for the actors/actresses, as long as the porn meets the correct guidelines then they both know what they are getting into and it's something that they want to do.
It's a job to them like fusing 2 bits of metal together is a job to me.
I love my job, maybe they love theirs.
Wonderer wrote on Feb 23rd, 2012 at 7:33am:Isn't sex supposed to be an act between two loving people, to bear children, or to bring two loving people closer together physically? If one act by himself, he/she is also depriving the other.
Sex is sex, it's better when the other person enjoys it at least as much as you do. It doesn't have to be between 2 loving people for both to enjoy it, although I find it's better with someone you love, but that's just me.
It's primarily there for reproduction but as we can also enjoy it that says to me that it's there for other reasons too, maybe to pass the time?
Religion has a lot to answer for when it comes to people being hung up about sex i.e. no sex before marriage

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Everybody's different, I would never choose the village bike as my life partner but to someone else she could be their dream woman.
Wonderer wrote on Feb 23rd, 2012 at 7:33am:But again, there are different situations. Like someone living by himself and needs to vent the animalalistic instinct. Or maybe one of the partner is sick for a long time.
So, like you guys said, I guess it depends on the situation. However, after all, it only brings a negative feeling, at least, its how I see it.
If someone needs to masturbate then they should do so without getting a negative feeling about it. It's perfectly healthy and everybody does it, if they say they don't then they're lying

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In my opinion the negative feeling comes from your own pre conceived idea that it's wrong to do so. I felt the same way when I was in my teens, it's only when you talk to others about this kind of thing that you realise that everyone does the same as you.
However, if you don't like doing it, don't do it. I don't like hitting myself in the face, so I don't do it

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