Hi Volu,

Yes, I think I understand what you are saying.  All gurus, teachers, humans don't always have good intent.  Sometimes they have a mixture part good and part no so good.  And other times their intent is fear based.  Would you agree?

Kathy

Maybe she just hated home intruders.

Lights of Love wrote on Jan 20^th, 2012 at 2:08pm:

Maybe it was love, or maybe it was fear, instinct, curiosity, protectiveness, opportunism, panic, desire, a sense of indignation, hatred, practicality, or other, or probably most likely a combination of some sort. I don't know what her motivating state was. But I do know the range of human motivations is infinitely wide. And I know I've often been wrong when I've assumed what is or was going on inside another. And I've done things that others have told me I did out of love, spiritual calling, self sacrifice, selfishness, etc, when in fact I did them out of sense of adventure and curiosity, sometimes just because I wanted to or because I liked it. When I don't know what a person's motivating state is or was, then I prefer to use the words maybe or perhaps while allowing for all possibilities. I find that wide angle view and receptiveness to all possibilities without preference is part of what enables me to know the truth, when I am able to know it.       

Yes, we're tricky animals us humans.

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I think we do try to hold onto what is familiar especially when we don't understand something or are afraid of change. 

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Many times when a person is confronted with a potentially traumatic or dangerous situation a profound presence of mind comes over them where they feel extremely calm and peaceful, along with an unusually high degree of clarity of mind and awareness.  There is little or no thinking along with little or no emotion and any action one is able to take in the situation is accomplished through that calm, peaceful heightened awareness.  This awareness, this alertness is similar to Anita Moorjani's description of the awareness she had with the exception that the focus of the awareness during a tramatic event is grounded in the corporal situation at hand.

What we seem to forget when discussing these things is that we are not in any way or at any time separate from our total self.  Usually when we think about something happening to us we scare ourselves beyond belief both before and after such an event takes place, yet many times during a traumatic or dangerous event our sense of the totality of our being is clearly present.

Kathy

There are many selfish power loving people who like to control others, who even hate others but pretend to be loving. They like to look innocent and caring while implying that those who think differently to them are not. They are the crowd pushing the creeping restrictions and bans across our societies; who force and pressure others to speak and think like themselves and to comply with their narrow socio-political ideology or else be labelled with one of their overused put-downs. They use empty buzzwords like diversity, multiculturalism, compassion, tolerance, equality, but these words are only the tools they use for controlling others and falsely elevating their selves. They portray themselves as the virtuous ones, the caring ones, the good people, but they are the worst of the hypocrites. They really only care about their own image being elevated in comparison to others image. They cannot truly elevate themselves because they reject the very basics of how to do so. They cannot face things as they are, so truth cannot be seen by them. They reject individual responsibility and accountability, so freewill and its potential to learn and grow is not realised by them. Their consideration-for-others is self serving for them, so love remains a mystery to them. They have many false sayings which on their surface sound nice and idealistic, but underneath are used as justifications for getting their selfish ways. One of their many sayings which they use for ill-intent is, "You must love your self before you can love others".

When you meet a lovely, fantastic being, it's natural to smile and want to be near that someone. But life has a way needing focus elsewhere too, so please forgive me mirror, but I'll soon be back with you.

The higher self is the ultimate killer whom pulls the plug when time is up, sorry poor life style to steal your thunder. When you know the time here is circling the drain it's also a possibility for a life review and a window of opportunity to do some actions you otherwise wouldn't do before suddenly dropping dead.

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Yes, it can be difficult not only to describe what self-love is, but also to actually do it.  Sometimes people are filled with such self-hatred they don't even know where to begin the process of self-love.

To me self-love from a human perspective is essentially taking the responsibility to meet your own needs.  On a physical level this means taking care of your needs on a bodily level; eating healthy food in the right amounts, exercising regularly, enjoying physical activities such sleeping, eating, sex, etc.

From an emotional standpoint, one needs to learn to develop a positive, understanding emotional relationship with one's self.  This is where it usually gets more difficult since most of us are unwilling to completely accept ourselves the way we are.  For example, feeling guilty for all intents and purposes is non-productive.  Feeling guilty is essentially rejecting the state we are in, indicating that we are unwilling to accept ourselves the way we are in the moment.  If we are feeling guilty for something we have either done or not done, then we are either procrastinating about doing something to rectify it, or we are still processing it, or we have made the choice to punish ourselves with guilt feelings because our actions did not express our integrity.

Many times it is far easier to feel guilty for something than it is to take the necessary action to maintain our integrity.  We fear whatever it is we must do.  It is easier to feel guilty than to face our fear, so here our guilt suppresses our fear, however that leads to self-rejection.  And we choose self-rejection over fear.

It might sound ridiculous to someone who has not felt self-hatred or to someone who's in denial, but I think it is more than likely that the most epidemic health problem we have is self-hatred.  Whenever you get to know anyone deeply, you will most likely see that inside that person there is a kernel of self-hatred inside them that runs very deep.  Most of the time we use the term low self-esteem and inside each person resides a constant and ongoing struggle for self-esteem that covers up the self-hatred.  We tend to measure ourselves based on a set of standards we learned in childhood. 

We may not be conscious of it, but we try to prove our self worth to others and it shows in our behavior, both by overachieving and underachieving.  We base our self-worth on what we expect of ourselves, many times demanding perfection from ourselves.  Then when we don't achieve perfection we judge and reject ourselves.  And when we do meet our own expectations, instead of acknowledging our accomplishment, allowing ourselves to feel satisfaction, we many times ignore and devalue it.  It's no wonder why there are people who don't even try to accomplish anything.  Like a vicious circle, they see the folly in the whole thing and simply refuse to participate.  Unfortunately, they destroy their spirit, their life energy, their creativity and sometimes their bodies in the process.

The bottom line is to cultivate self-acceptance.  Acceptance does not mean surrender.  It means to deeply trust, love and accept our lives and ourselves no matter what.  It means to really get to know our inner being, communing with it, identifying with it, and finding its divinity or finding God within the very core of our being. It means to live gracefully in the face of whatever life brings our way. Many have no idea how freeing taking out the emotional trash can be. 

Kathy