Quote:So narcissism isn't the same as being love, but how does one describe the difference?
Hi Lucy,
I'm not sure if this will answer your question or not, but hopefully it will shed some light on the subject.
I would agree that PUL is the very foundation of our being, the substance, the essence of what we are only in the sense that God alone is this underlying foundation or the ground of our very being that we call PUL. This is what I have believed and have spoken of for many years. Yet it seems as though, to our limited mind anyway, PUL is more as a guiding light. Something that we are striving to evolve within our very being. If PUL is a state of being, and I have thought it is, then there obviously are other states of being that exist as well. In addition it seems as though there is an element of chaos that resides within our consciousness. Or at least we can hypothesize this because of the way we express ourselves in our interactions with each other and the varying intents behind the expression.
Love is something that can only be given. I think it is correct to say that it is to the exact degree we are able to love and understand one's self, it is to that exact same degree we are able to love and understand others. So the more we give love and understanding to our self, the more we are able to give love and understanding to others when interacting with them. The deciding factor as to whether or not it is love being given resides in our intent. The underlying motivation of our thought and action. Is the intent love based or is it fear/ego based? Discerning our intent, our motivation, is not always easy and the resulting outcome of an action does not always reflect one's intent accurately. So how do we know we are growing spiritually? How do we know we are evolving, rather than devolving?
If our capacity to love, to give, to exhibit humility and compassion in our daily interactions is significantly increasing, while our ego, fear and material attachments are significantly decreasing, we then can know that we are evolving, improving the quality of our internal being, our consciousness.
It seems to me that spiritual growth/evolving our consciousness (same thing) is directly related to and results from our innate ability (the guiding light within) to interact from loving intent. It is not about how much we do, wear ourselves out in the service of others, it is about the reason, the incentive, the impetus that drives our thought and actions as we experience and interact with all that we perceive as external from us. Real spiritual progress, real improvement in the quality of our consciousness must come from the inside, that which is internal. This involves self love and understanding. A part of self love involves the understanding of our true intent, our true motivations, as well as the assimilation, the integration of what we create in our lives through our interactions. In other words, it is through our interactions with others that changes occur within our being, modifies what we are internally.
We can unquestionably know that we are growing spiritually if we are truly knowledgeable in regards to our true intent, if we are kind, humble, compassionate, helpful, balanced and focused on what we can contribute to the well-being of others in our day to day interactions. Others will also see our capacity to love, to give, to display compassion and humility. A highly evolved individual sticks out from the crowd like a shining jewel. These individuals are beloved and held in the highest esteem by everyone who meets them. They have gentle and highly effective personal power that is fearless, egoless. These individuals live gracefully in the face of the unknown because this is a simple and very natural process that occurs when there is an absence of fear within one's being.
If on the other hand our spiritual state is stagnate or of low quality, ego driven and our interactions with people are manipulative, and we are trying to impress them for material or ego ends, then we are failing in our efforts to grow spiritually and improve the quality of our being, even if we have convinced people otherwise, and thereby will have deluded one's self.
Eventually we will have no difficulty telling the difference between real spiritual growth or delusions of spiritual growth about our self if (and that's a big if) one actually wants to know the truth.
Kathy