Vicky wrote on Jan 26th, 2012 at 9:16pm:Just Me wrote on Jan 26th, 2012 at 7:46pm: but I have come to learn how to know if something is "mine" versus from somebody else.
Kind regards,
mj
MJ,
How have you come to distinguish this? Did it take many experiences for you to learn this, or was there some way that you were able to notice something specifically which signified it?
I too have had this happen to me, and it takes me a while before I can distinguish and separate what's mine and what's someone elses. I still have trouble with it, so I'm curious if you have some pointers for me. My experience hasn't been like an illness, as yours was. That is pretty extreme! My experiences seem to be more about emotions and feelings.
Hi Vicky,
I had to laugh out loud at this question! Believe it or not, I drafted the exact same question to you and decided to delete it.
I don't have a special process for it. I just have to take "inventory" of my own stuff and if I can't connect the dots I know it's not mine. Nothing scientific at all! lol
The scariest experience I had was not being able to walk. I woke up to get ready for work and I fell flat on my face. I tried to get up but couldn't make my feet work. I had no idea what was wrong because I was fine when I went to bed. It took about four days for me to "recover" and during that time I was in excruciating pain with no known cause (to me). About two months later I learned that a family member had surgery on both feet during that time. I have also developed burns, welts, scars and other signs of injury when I haven't been hurt (later confirmed to be someone else's). All of those have been no contact types.
I also can feel things if I touch someone. My brother is not very talkative. One day, he was visiting us and we were laying on my bed watching a movie together. I reached across to rub his hand just as a gesture of I'm glad you're here (he just returned from Afghanistan a few weeks prior). I immediately drew back because I could feel every ache and pain he was experiencing. I asked him if he was okay and he just kind of nodded. I told him he could talk to me about anything and I would be willing to listen. He never told me what happened to him during the war and I didn't press him on it. Yet, for several minutes I had the actual physical experience of his experiences. I try very hard not to get close to people or touch anyone because it still shocks me when it happens. It's unnerving to say the least!
Until a few years ago I was not aware of any of these types of things. I knew I was experiencing them, but I certainly didn't know there was a name for it or that other people could possibly understand. I still have never told anyone in my non-internet life. Of course my spouse knows because we've been together so long, but nobody else. Where would I even begin with something like this?

Sorry I couldn't be more helpful and offer practical advice. I'll keep you posted should I have any revelations.
Kind regards,
mj