Justin,

"After all, I don't want to be transforming too many beliefs too fast, that can cause spontaneous combustion in some folks and we don't want that!"

'We' is a slow changer anyways, and it's slowly sinking in that the I is the one that really needs transforming and focus. 'Selfish' gets tossed around, perhaps a fear popping up regarding that particular aspect not being allowed to meddle anymore - nobody to "help" anymore. Tips, advices, cheeky humorous pokes and so on has a different vibration than preaching, which is saving, which loses the point completely. When it comes to preaching, I'll be more aware of it on my part and try to toss both it and the bathwater out of my being. It sucks.

Reading the quoted text I see your dark side saying it wants carthe blanche for you and your friend. Yeah, could be a lot worse, and you're courageous to attempt embracing it. No balance without it. My dark side enjoys shock humour. Funny responses and a way to learn about what's below the surface.

  Volu, it was a joke.  I don't think i transform any beliefs on here, and that is not my intent per se anyways. 

  A forum is not really a good venue for that anyways.  It's best done by mostly silent example and in person. 

  For example, i've had friends become vegetarian after hanging out with me and being influenced by my example and reasons, and not once did i preach to them, or even indicate that i believed they should be become vegetarian.   They liked what they saw in my example, and thought the reasons why i did it made sense.  But the point is, less animals are being tortured and mistreated for human consumption. To me, that is a "good thing" no matter how you cut it.

  That was the true way of Jesus, and along with his "miraculous" good works, his silent example is what really transformed people's beliefs and ways.   So far, i'm just a candle in comparison to his Star. 

  Shiver me timbers, arrgh matey.  I do admit, i'm pretty scary!   Care Bear Stare.