Dear Andy,

You have just had some profound experiences, haven't you?!  My condolences for the profound loss of your young son.  And also we can be very happy about all the confirmations of the afterlife that you and your family are experiencing! They are true (and are similiar to what many of us at this site have experienced) -- It's all so amazing.

You certainly have gone through some extreme changes. You might be helped in adjusting your whole system to your new insights by doing some deep breathing in fresh air, maybe with extra exercise.

Eventually I expect that your partner also will be greatly helped by all the information that you and your relatives are getting and by your reactions to it. 

Betson

Andy,
I am so sorry for your loss. As the father of two young kids, I cannot comprehend what you are going through. All I can say is that we seem to get what we need, when we need it. Clearly, you needed to know that your son was safe and in good hands. Often, as I understand it, there are family members around us (in the non-physical plane), that we might not expect, or even know in this life.  But they are there, and are part of your "extended" family just the same. I wish you  peace and joy with the new arrival.
Bardo-

Hello Andy:

First of all, sorry for your loss.

I've received a lot of messages from spirits in various ways, and receiving thoughts as you mentioned is a valid way of receiving them. Also, I've analyzed thousands of my dreams and have found that we can receive spirit messages in this way. Therefore, you can probably trust the dreams you wrote about.

Due to numerous experiences I am certain that the afterlife exists, so you can trust that your deceased son still exists as a being who is aware of his existence.

Sometimes spirits try to let people know that a deceased loved one is okay because it easier for a such a loved one to move on when bereavment isn't too strong.

It interesting that your son was waving goodbye a lot during his later days.  I've read that some souls agree to incarnate for just a short period of time because their early death spiritually benefits their loved ones.

HI Andy, welcome. 

I am so deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your son, and it wasn't very long ago.  I can't imagine how you're doing well enough to even be here talking about it.  My kids are 15 and 13, but I couldn't imagine losing either one of them at any age.  My heart goes out to you as I read your story. 

But when I read what you've been saying about the good feelings you've been receiving, it makes sense how you're "ok" at this point.  It sounds like you're receiving a lot of counseling spiritually, nonphysically, while you sleep.  Doesn't that seem to make sense to you?  I hope at this time you and your partner are getting plenty of sleep to help with the healing process, because especially during times of great stress and change in our lives our sleep/dream time is a time where we can receive a great amount of spiritual comfort and growth.  The feelings you're waking up with are proof of that, so please remember them, write them down, and remind yourself of those feelings.  They are real and they are important. 

You're probably already doing this, but I would suggest you talk to your son in your thoughts, tell him anything you feel, and just really make it your intention to connect with him.  This will not only bring you peace of mind, comfort, and relief, but may also facilitate receiving some answers that those doctors can't provide for you. 

Again, my heart goes out to you.  I can't imagine having lost one of my children back then, or now.  As a parent, you see countless times when you're near panic thinking the worst has happened.  Our son once wandered off in an antique store and I went "mad" screaming at everyone "Stop, look for my son!"  I screamed at the checkout clerk to lock the front doors so that no one could leave.  Yes, I went crazy until we found him hiding and playing with a toy he'd wanted.  My husband couldn't believe I'd act so nuts, but hey, what if someone was kidnapping our son?  He was only 2!  And once when my daughter was 1, we lost her at Sears department store.  (We ARE great parents, despite these two stories!)  And again, I went screaming mad, yelling at the top of my lungs, "Everyone, I can't find my baby.  She's 1 and she looks just like me!  Find her!"  I got everyone's attention at that moment, and luckily a group of people called to me saying they had found her.  And another time, when my daughter left the house on her own when she was 4....the list goes on and on.  And it just never ends.  Even now that they are teenagers, I still can't imagine if something were to happen to them.  I just thank God every day for them.

I wish you well with the new baby on the way, and wish you so much joy and happiness.  I know that many of our questions never get answered in life, but I do believe everything happens for a reason, even if we don't know why.  I'm so happy both of you are dealing with it ok and having so much family support, even in their dreams too. 

It really sounds like you have a gift for connecting to the other side.  I would not be surprised if you continue to have spiritual experiences surrounding your son as time goes on.  He will never leave you and you may be feeling his presence in different ways now and then, not just in dreams but in waking life too. 

I just wish I could give you a big hug. 

Vicky

Hi Andrew, I just want to extend my sympathy,concern & good wishes; I am sure there is nothing anyone can say that will really provide comfort at this time.

I recently lost my soul mate (through suicide) & I can absolutely assure you that there is life after the body  & that you will be in contact with your son when the time is right, something that you have obviously experienced in prior situations.  But parting is still a terrible wrench, & in the case of a child it must be almost unbearable.

Andrew, 

Thinking of you and sending you good thoughts. 

Seems that you're on the right path, successfully reaching your son Lyndon where he is now, and trusting your feelings and intuition to get you through the difficult hours. 

Your question about personality and if it continues after we drop the body is interesting.  I do sense elements of my father's personality when I can feel him, so I think it does continue.  Interesting that I always "see" him in his carefree teen years instead of the 84 year old I last knew him as.

A phrase I read somewhere.... on the internet?.... recently helps me a lot, so I'll share: 

"We are non-physical beings having a physical experience." 

Lyndon and my dad Gaylen are conscious and ALIVE and now evaluating their recently completed "physical experience" in the non-physical realm where we'll soon join them. 

They're not "gone" at all.

Just gone ahead.

Just a bit ahead of us, and not even gone so far that we can't reach them when we try.

Andy B wrote on Apr 7^th, 2011 at 12:39pm:


I believe we do keep our same personality after die, basically.  Especially if you're talking about having interaction with them either while we're still alive or after we die too, I believe that we'll experience them with the same personality we did while they were alive.  Usually we just have that effect on each other.  Like you could be in a lousy mood but then a friend calls you up and it totally changes your mood.  I think personality has a lot to do with that because of the way we interact and identify with each other...and our perception of another person's energy is going to give us a great amount of personality interpretation anyway. 

So when it comes to the other side, it's all about connecting through thought and energy attraction, which is why, I believe, that if you're thinking about the person who died, they are going to feel and receive those thoughts.  I also believe that they can impress our thoughts by giving us a reminder of a memory, song, or anything that will get our thoughts in the right direction.  Those gentle nudges.  So while it's not really a matter of THEM behaving the way we remember them to be, it's more a matter of them getting our attention in the right direction so that we can remember, think, or feel a connection to them. 

After my dad died I've felt him "visit" several times.  And I'll just be doing something normal without thinking of him, and suddenly I'll feel him there and it changes my thoughts, mood, attention, etc.  So it's definitely reasonable to believe that it's an energy exchange that takes place....we are experiencing theirs and they are experiencing ours, just like here in the physical.  So by all intents and purposes, that exchange can be chalked up to personality.


About your fleeting vision of your dad and him being evasive....that might not be the case.  It's more likely that when you first get a sense of seeing him that something in your belief system quickly puts up a block in perception.  The slightest thought of doubt or disbelief can trigger that, even if you know you do believe in this sort of thing. 

What I've had to do to change that mechanism is begin to make changes in how I think about a lot of things.  One example might be something like allowing myself to be more relaxed in flow of thinking throughout the day, rather than my usual planning of every little thing I need to get done today.  Just making one change like that can help to change traits in your belief system.  Does that make sense?  So like, instead of rigidly sticking to my to-do list one day, I might instead decide to see what it feels like to tell myself, "Ok, I know I have a big to-do list today, but what do I feel like doing at this moment?"  And if I tune into the true nature of my feelings rather than just sticking to the logical side of me, it's a way of opening the door to allowing the psychic/intuitive side to open up to other possibilities, and that's the side of us that perceives spirit connection and communication. 

Vicky