Could it be a test on your husband, so he was supposed to learn _not_ to cheat, and you agreed to help him learn that lesson?

Juditha:

I believe the bad karma business can be over thought. Sometimes people are treated poorly simply because there are those who will treat others poorly regardless of what might've happened in a past life.

It is hard for me to believe that little girls who are forced into prostitution are paying off karmic debt. In fact, it may be that such girls are souls who were loving and brave enough to take on tough incarnations that are created by people who will misuse people in such a terrible way.

In a way it is a "what came first, the chicken or the egg affair."  The first people who treated others poorly didn't do so because it was the karma of those they hurt to be treated poorly, because such victims wouldn't be prior offenders if the people who hurt them are the first to hurt somebody.

I don't know all the details, but I gotta say I felt relieved when I read that you left your husband because I wouldn't want to spend my time with a person who doesn't treat me with love and respect. As far as I'm concerned, it is better to be alone.

Some would say it's a matter of a more mature soul educating a less mature soul, but if the less mature soul doesn't want to change for the better, it does neither he nor the person he treats poorly to stay together. If anyting, more problems are created.

Perhaps you've given your ex-husband an education by letting him know that there are people who love themselves so much, they won't let other people mistreat them.

Hi Juditha,

Karma is never a curse you are forced to go through; it simply is a mathematical variation of Newton's law.  For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

However, those who believe that our present lives are completely dictated by our past lives are seriously misinformed.  Not every thief will be reborn and have someone steal from him/her.  Not every murderer will be reborn only to be murdered.  There is no judge presiding over your lives who condemns you to a karma or fate. 

Karma simply states that what you send out in your deepest thoughts and actions, tends to manifest in your life, and attract various situations to you.  That is all.  It is most relevant to your present life, and current situation. 

If we have past lives, it is clear that they are not meant to interfere with our present one.  You are not a puppet of karma; the truth is that you are able to determine your own fate and life.

How is this done?  By applying your intent and belief to change your circumstances.  You should identify how you want your earthly life to change for the better, and then hold that image in your mind.  See it as done.  Give thanks for the change you wish to see before it comes.  Feel the emotion of joy in knowing deep down that it will come to pass.  I recommend trying to make a change like this while relaxed or meditating. 

Thought and intent changes reality when applied correctly.  You can either be the master of your own ship, or you can give up your own ability to direct things, and feel that you are buffeted about by forces beyond your control, like being on a raft in the middle of the ocean.  The choice is yours to make, but I say - choose to make things happen.

Give thanks for what you have, and who you love; don't dwell on the past.  An attitude of gratitude is an amazing way to dispel the negative thoughts about one's past problems or future fate. 

Passages from the New testament clue people in to their ability to take charge and direct their earthly lives ("ask and you shall receive"  "seek and you shall find"  "knock and the door shall open).  These are clear enough instructions.

Don't get me wrong, I don't want to make life's problems sound trivial or easy to solve.  But we live in linnear time while on earth, and we can shape our happiness with our thoughts and convictions.  To assign any current misery to a past life is, in my opinion to voluntarily give that past life more power than it is is worth.

You are not alone in this.


With love,

Matthew