Yes we can have everything that way.
With soul mates, you can have differing relationships in various lives: spouses in one life, siblings in another, parents in yet another. That way you get to experience all the types of relationships available in your group.
So (and I'm taking hypothetically here of course) you may find that you're very protective of your husband/wife/lover in this life because you have a soul memory of being a mother/father to them in a previous lifetime.
Anything is possible.
Mind you, then there's the question of twin souls, which is supposed to be the other half of you. Maybe at the deepest level that's the one that we all search for -the missing counterpart of ourself.
Check out Shirley Maclaine's Out on a Limb p.200 for an explanation of the difference between the two. This gave me a lightbulb moment and healed three years of pain trying to deal with someone who I thought had been my twin soul, but wasn't. Just someone I had lots of karmic baggage with from previous lives. Once I understood the way that works I could finbally move on and be healed on  that score.

Best wishes,
David.

detheridge wrote on Apr 18^th, 2010 at 3:35am:


David, that is the way I see it.  My wife was my mother the last time we were together...I am not sure how I would have felt about that had I known before she married me!  My ex fiance in this life was my sister in that life...hmmm, my ex fiance was my current wife's daughter...this soul-mate stuff is really interesting...my dad was my brother last time around, while my son was my best friend! 

StoneColdTrue wrote on Apr 19^th, 2010 at 5:36pm:


I initially wondered why I developed relationships with some people and not others...some were easy and others took real work...some we picked up where we left off (even sometimes over two decades), and often on first meeting them it was as if we were picking up where we left off, while with others it was like having to get to know them each time we met.  Some women I'd date came to me as if called, while others took tremendous effort to even talk to (despite a strong physical attraction).  So this was what I had rolling around in my head for years.

I had a visitation/vision/lucid (while awake) dream, or something that I have described elsewhere on this site, that caused me to begin to read and research exactly what we have been discussing here.  My initial desire was to find out why a certain woman had had such a strong impression on me so quickly 18 years ago, and also, why she had come back energetically all those years later.  So that is where my search began...instead of a mid-life crisis, I became spiritual, searching for answers. 

I spoke with many psychics and akashic readers, and was surpised at their consistency and desire to help.  I was able to catalog a series of former lives, but only those which were germaine to the matters I am facing in this life, so that left an enormous void for which I must research myself.  However, I found that while they were seeing real stuff, they could only interpret through the glasses of their own experience as to what they were seeing and only by doing it myself could I get the clearest messages regarding what I was looking for.  They all told me that I needed to learn how to do it myself...so I did.  Now I only call "my readers" when I need confirmation of what I have found for myself.

When something reveals itself to you, whether it is something you read which resonates, some situation that "miraculously" comes together, or a person that strikes you differently, either good or bad, there is a reason or purpose behind it.  I then meditate on it to review its reason for affecting me, and seek to be taken to when it was significant to me then and now.

One thing to be aware of about past lives...they can be tremendously compelling, but their significance is only in the value they can provide for your current life...if they can provide wisdom to assist you with matters you face now, good...otherwise they are simply a curiosity.  And while I have spent alot of time seeing how the previous lives that have significance for me now can help me, the others lose their attraction...its kind of weird, but its like someone says "You don't need this now."  Guidance looking out for me again.

PM if you have any specific questions...I hope this helps.

Thanks for the reply. I'm not really sure if I care to ever find out what my past lives were like if I had any. Or rather, I'm only slightly interested in what I was like but more interested as to who was significant then and who is significant now. Like to see which people in my life now are my soul mates. A few I suppose I already know to be just because of our connection. I've definitely got one of those brotherhood like friendships of several males, neither of us really capable of imagining belonging to any other group.

There is one big question on my mind and it involves a girl. I can't figure out why I can't let her go in my mind. I want to and she really has given me no reason to want to keep her around. It feels like this subconscious infatuation. Long story short I became friends with her two years ago, developed a big crush on her, she wasn't really into me that way and liked my best friend, she "got around" with a lot of guys and made a mess of her life to the point that no one respected her, she used my friendship to her advantage and then just moved to another state. I went through a period where I despised her as a person and then later on didn't really care so much because her life is her own.

But there shouldn't be any reason for me to still think about her. I haven't seen her in almost two years and I've grown up since then. It's just weird. Even weirder is that her roommate in the state she moved to has moved back here and become regularly associated with my group of friends, and I heard the other day that this girl was moving back as well. Part of me would rather just never see or think about her again, and another part won't let that happen. I can't make sense of it and my new spirituality says there may be more to it.

I guess I'm just going to relax and see how it plays out. It's probably just that I never completely got over her and seeing her again may allow me to do that.

StoneColdTrue wrote on Apr 19^th, 2010 at 11:53pm:


Precisely the reasons I went in the directions I have...why and how those in your life fit in while others simply do not.  Some enter your life with complete comfort and ease, while others just do not click with you...they are not bad people, and they seem nice enough...sometimes there is just nothing there.  I wanted to know why.  I have found everyone close to me has had prior lifetimes with me and we have played various roles with each other. 

As an example, it is not necessary to know that your best friend was an identical twin in a prior life, but it makes sense when the two of you, to a remarkable level, speak, do, like, and see everything the same way...(this guy was born five days before me, his mom is a teacher, his dad is an airline pilot, he was raised presbyterian, became a lawyer,  married a catholic girl after going out with her for years, has a daughter and a son, likes cooking, fine wine, and surfs...all of which is true for me too (except for being born five days later)).  We met as if we had just spoken the day before and have been best friends ever since.  Why?  As identical twins in a prior lifetime we played twin games on people,  exchanging identities at will...the images I have received range from amusing to almost creepily Machiavellian.

Likewise, while the above was realized at a later date, my enlightenment began because of a woman...the ex-fiance hadn't been heard from in 18 years and then "the vision"...thus began my search for her signifcance and why I might be hearing from her energetically.  She is another prominent soul mate and she had contracted with me prior to this lifetime to steer me in this direction...she was the "bait" that would open my eyes to the path and goals I had chosen for this life.  She will have no further interaction with me in this lifetime, and she has played her role perfectly, following the script exactly as we had planned.

For me, past lives and understanding how this "system" of reincarnation works has provided answers to questions that had been keeping me up at night.  The research is a tool, a means to an end, not the end in itself.  The issues you find most troubling now may be resolved through a broader perspective, or seeing how it was or was not dealt with in a prior lifetime.  It has worked that way for me.  As I arrived at my answers, everything else seemed to fall into place and my direction for this lifetime became clearer.  Do not forget that everything you do is to benefit this lifetime and to enhance how you play it. 

If this method of attaining peace of mind and understanding works for you I am happy to have helped.  However, I in no way intend to tell you or anyone this is THE WAY, but rather a way that I have found effective. 

Love and light...       

You know how your teacher gives you an essay assignment in school? I'd have to say it's more like that. Your Actor Self has something to learn just as teachers learn from their students essays.,,or should anyway. It's kind of free form expression, but there are lessons to be learned and everyone writes on a different subject but still following the rules the teacher laid down. If they don't they find out about it soon.

Yes, we are on a Plan It for crying out loud==pun intended.