Hi Vicky,

I am glad you received your own signal from him and about him.  It is very similar to my own.  My dad died about 2-3 years ago.  He had a progressive neurological disorder, and had been essentially bedbound for 2 years before his death. 

I set intent to talk with him.  I told him I loved him, and what I had learned of the afterlife, try to, at least in my mind warn him of the pitfalls of getting stuck.  Within three weeks of his death two episodes came up, though not what I expected. 

The first was similar to your own.  I had a phasing experience where I was back in my childhood home, his home.  I knew that my mother and sister (who are alive) were in the den.  Here I was, in the living room and my father was stretched out in a reclining position on the couch.  He was elderly and frail, as he had been before he died.  I looked at him and spoke, and we exchanged some small talk.  Then, with great effort, I focused and said: "wait a minute, this can't be happening dad, you are dead."  He looked up at me, smiled and simply said "No, I'm still here."  At that moment, I was absolutely sure that he was.  I started to move to the next room to get my mother and sister to bring them in and show them that my father was still with us.  Then I snapped back into the real world.

I shook my head and wondered.  Was this a wishful daydream?  A lucid dream?  If it was a contact from him, why was he still frail and elderly in appearance?  And yet, it was very different than my usual lucid dreams.  I called my mother and sister and told them what happened.  My "take" on things were that this was a true communication and that he had a lot of healing to do after a long bout of being bedridden with dementia.  But that he was in fact "still here."

Two shorter episodes followed in one, a dream, I was on the telephone, and my father's distinctive voice was at the other end.  He was giving me advice, and again, at a certain point I focused like I would in the physical world and said "but wait a minute dad, how can we be talking now, when you died?"  Very shortly after the phone call ended.  The next episode came later, in a train.  I had an image in my mind of my father from a photograph he had once showed me in his youth.  I hadn't thought about that image in a while.  It was him, and he was 17 or 18, on the beach, in perfect shape and smiling.  The image was, a strong one.  It lingered in my mind for a while and then was gone.  Could it have been my own wishful thinking, or was it a sign of his post-mortem progression?  I don't know.  But i reported it to my family, and to some extent, it gave us comfort.

I was hoping for something more direct, like a direct account of the hereafter, but I got what I got.  And, I suppose I was thankful for that much.  I would have wanted more.  i still talk to him from time to time, as well as a few other of my deceased loved ones, hoping they will hear me.  I don't understand the "timelessness" of the afterlife mental plane, but if it is outside of time, then the whole issue of reincarnation and contact from our dimension may not matter. 

Vicky, there may be more to come, but your story rings true and similar to my own.  I say, keep talking to him.  Project whatever it is you want him to know.  It may be easier for him to hear your thoughts than vice versa.

Thanks for your sharing your experience.

Matthew

Vicky,

I'm so amazed, your story seems as if it was written or intended just for me!  My dad died in June.  He knew he was fading, and had signed a DNR.  He asked to be moved to the hospice wing of the hospital.  He was 83.  My family and I had 4 precious days with him as he gently slipped away.  Several times as he lay sleeping I asked him "please send me a sign that you're okay when you get there, Dad!"  When he died, I was filled with such grief, and driven to search the internet for anything relating to contacting loved ones.  This site was one of the first to appear, and I've been reading here ever since. 

I, too, wanted some kind of clear "without a doubt" communication from him, answers about where he is, what he's doing, what it was like to die. 

What I have received so far are a few waking image experiences, and one vague dream (I had him on the phone, and was trying to ask where we were supposed to meet,  but I couldn't hear what he was saying because there was the noise of so many people talking in the background). 

You said your father loved writing sermons.  My Dad was a minister, too, and spent much time over his sermons!  I have also wondered the same thing, that maybe he believed that there shouldn't be contact between the sides, as my Mom also believes, and maybe that was hindering contact.  Yet, I have had a few images of him that have come to me in which he was well (and rather much younger), one image in which he was sitting in his old study, talking intently with Ted Kennedy. 

This site has been so meaningful for me, I have to think it was given to me as a gift.

Thank you Vicky, and all.  Will keep on listening, will try to stay open, and will just keep on believing.

Lakeman wrote on Feb 4^th, 2010 at 8:56pm:


Lakeman,
What you've said here is quite true;
i do miss the way the old forum was and yes I've been here since the beginning also. But we have to evolve.

Nerveless what Vicky posted here is a classic in sharing  her thoughts and feeling experiences and worth re-reading as Bruce says, so much information in that post

Keep it up Vicky..
and thank you again for sharing.

Welcome to the board Lakeman
PUL R.