Mcdwg,
Think of yourself, in regard to what you are attempting, as a "new-born baby".
You can't just stand up and start running right away.
There is a growth process.
Believe me, I am struggling with it, too.
Actually, you have done some pretty amazing things already. I have never had a "real" OBE (to my knowledge) and only one lucid dream that I can recall.
My journeys, so far, have been with Bruce's method. Primarily images that I see, not on the back of my eyelids, but somewhere in my head, or mind. Not exactly sure where they originate. But, for me, if I try to focus hard on the back of my eyelids (like trying to "see" with my closed eyes) I lose them and have to concentrate and search somewhere inside my head to "lock on" to the images again.
It can be frustrating and confusing at times, for sure. It seems to be, for me, mostly a floundering around process as I try different ways of doing things -- some work, some don't.
Don't take my advice too seriously -- I have been studying Bruce's material only 2 months.
I'm just sayin' that it takes a while to get a handle on this stuff. But, consider what you are attempting. Projecting your consciousness or "second body" across the Great Divide between two worlds. Great goals usually require great effort and discipline, in my experience.
Don't get discouraged.
Quaero
P.S. Supermodel -- remember what Bruce emphasizes. Love and Fear cannot co-exist. "Charge" yourself with Love to the max before exploring -- then project all the Love you can from your heart chakra towards what you fear.
Also, projecting Love towards what you don't understand or cannot percieve well can help clarify it.
Note: Sometimes I find it much easier to give advice than to follow my own advice.