Fear, it all about keeping you in fear and trapped within the physical. If your afraid then your easier to control. Its the old...give us what we want, or you going to hell, and hell is not where you want to be going. There is no physical pain in the astral so no need to be in fear of fire.

It all depends what we do while here on earth.There are 7 levals of heaven,and 7 levals of hell,so the more good we do,the higher the leval we go in heaven.and the more evil we are we go to the lowest leval.as far as I know,if we are evil,we have a choise to reincarnate back her on earth.George

I have asked God a few times if Hell is real, he never told me.

The comfort you are seeking does not come from someone telling you how it is or will be. The comfort comes from exploring the possibilities. I can only tell you what I find to make the most sense to me, but it will not make that sense to you unless you have read and experienced the same or similar things to me. There are some here who will give you an absolute impression of what to expect and there are advantages and disadvantages to it. The real advantage is that if you like what they say then perhaps it will inspire you to seek out your own answers, but the disadvantage is that what they say will color your perspective and then you will have a filter on what you perceive just as the Bible has given you a filter on your perceptions. Seek out the influences that come from a love basis. That will be personal to you no matter what someone may say. How we love is personal and so is our relationship with the ALL THAT IS, God, or however you like to put it. Break it down for yourself in a way that makes sense to you and if it is frightening to you it is fear based and not really advancing your cause. Release the fears and seek out whats in your heart free of that fear. Good luck and have fun.

Did she worry about it? Did she think she was going to hell? Where she is has a lot more to do with who your grandmother was to herself than who she was to you. What does it mean that she was not a believer? Do you mean she did not believe in Jesus? Think about how religion is an instrument of control. Perhaps control is good, for some perhaps even necessary. If you love her then she must have been a good person or certainly trying to be so. At some level we are all doing the best we can at any given moment.

Believing in Jesus does not keep you from hell....or the hell you make in your mind.  More than anything, believing in these "fundamentalist" beliefs are the worst thing you can do for your soul if you ask me. It is so restricting. I understand your worry and fear, but that's what the fundamentalists hope you feel.

I don't think many here would tell you you should definitely leave your religion. That is a decision you have to come to on your own, but certainly you will find many points of view here that will help you make a decision. My girlfriend is very religious and I am not at all religious. We have agreed to disagree. I think of myself as on the only truly important journey I will take in this life or any other. There is a lot of information out there. Once you start looking around you'll find your way and every day it will be easier to discern where you are going on YOUR journey.