Dear Sue,

Our condolences are heartfelt.

Four to six weeks is typically the time needed for a passed soul to adjust to its new situation, I've read. But that will vary according to what you are both to learn from this new separation.

You are closer to him than any medium will be.  You were very sensitive to your shared futures. You are respectful of his current situation ("...but wonder if this is wrong or too soon.")
You seem like you will be alert to any contact he can make---through dreams, daydreams, words others say that stand out strongly for no 'reason.' He could contact you through many ways.

Why not wait and see if such a personal communication is forthcoming --much better than some stranger telling you such and such.

Bets

Sue,
Sorry to hear about your loss.
Remember your husband wasn't his body as you aren't your body. You are your mind, you are the awareness behind your body, just as he was the awareness behind his body.
Sounds as if you are pretty intuitive. You've had a sign with the rose and if you look you'll find plenty of others to confirm that you are more than a physical body.
Let beliefs go and let experiences happen. (easier said than done )

Oh .. the thought I may have caused my dear husband's death is awful...I really hope this was not a self filling prophecy. This terrifies me.. that I am responsible. I did not want these thoughts or feelings- they came out of the blue.

As for signs I think maybe I am looking too hard..in the wrong places..I want so much to communicate with my dear hubby -to know he is happy and loves me still. Right now I am awash with so many thoughts and emotions, fears , guilt etc.  Now he can see my soul and I worry I am not a good enough person and he will be disappointed in me. To think that my negative thoughts could have caused his demise scares me. 

What is keeping me going is the thought our Love will see us through this and death will not change anything

Sue

Hi Sue,

Although I believe what OOBDude says is true about attraction in a very general sense - that in negative cases it does not help anyone -  it still  takes much and prolonged focus to actually manifest such an occurrance in such an extreme way as a death** or even illness (although the latter can be more common). Fear and worry can enter energetically into other people and affect them - IF THEY ALLOW IT - and even then, each person is still guided and protected by their own innate divinity.

We see this all the time - people throwing negative vibrations at each other all over the world all day long, consciously and unconsciously, regardless of geographic distance - and it can have an effect. (the same is true in the opposite case with love). Yet both parties have free will to modify and deal with what they project and what they receive - it is an ongoing process, a negotiation with life energy in all forms.

This happens all the time. Mostly it affects the sender of ill-will as much or more than the receiver - as that energy is binding and limiting in its nature vs expanding and liberating. It is true that each person must recognize and conquer these negative patterns within themselves so that evolution can allow for greater growth and spiritual progress.

However --
It is very unlikely that you caused your husbands death, or even contributed to it. Rather, I believe that the premonitions you received were probably to prepare you for what was for whatever reasons, inevitable - you (your soul) agreed and he (his soul) agreed to this and you were probably being inwardly prepared.

If it was a less than certain outcome you might not have received the premonitions since free-will may have altered the situation.

Your husband may have completed his current "assignment", which you had the blessing and priviledge to share with him, and he just had to move on to fulfill God's Will in and through his individual life. Your role is integral but different.

It could be that your Highest Self/God/Soul simply wanted you to have this experience and surrender to it - for whatever reason(s) you may/may not eventually find out, or if and when you do, it may not be "rational" or make "human sense" - even if it is to transcend the experience itself, and open to greater life experiences which are beyond physical death. We are all dying every minute and coming to life every minute. What we invoke in that process is our choice and is compassionately supported always.


If you want to reach him, imo the best, safest way is through communication with God/Source and not trying directly with him (husband), especially after a few weeks or months when most souls have "moved on".

I'm sorry for your loss and wish you well,

- u



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I have had many premonitions.and they are warning of dangers of something is about to happen to somebody,and I would tell that person to see a doctor as soon as possible for a checkup.it could save that persons life,or no matter what you do,its going to happen.but its wourth a try.some premonitions may come the next day,and others may come 6 months or more.George

Sue:

Sorry for your loss.  I don't believe you're responsible for your husband's death.


Dude:

I believe you're overdoing the below way of thinking. What if some us start believing that the below isn't true? Does it stop being true, or was it never true to begin with? Some mighty wealthy people are responsible for propogating the below way of thinking to a ludicrous extent.  Their way of attracting money to themselves is selling the idea to other people. One such person charges each seminar attendee $972.  His sense of selfless giving overwhelms me. If a kid in the ghetto keeps thinking he'll get a pony, will he get one? Jane Roberts didn't buy health insurance because she believed it would cause her to become ill, and look what happened to her.  She couldn't attract a light being to herself that would heal her, despite what she claimed.  

I Am Dude wrote on Jun 8^th, 2009 at 1:20pm:

Sue,

My condolences for your grief.  Deep down, I believe that death is only the physical body, but, the pain is real here in the physical plane. 

With regard to dude's remarks.....here is the deal - first, do not for one moment think that you were somehow responsible for his death.  No matter what others think, the individual person has the most impact on his or her life, death and health. 

Along the lines Dude was talking about - if your husband believed in the negative or that he was "cursed" (as some people do in Voodoo), that, in my opinion would attract circumstances most powerfully.

However, for most of us there is a complex interaction of genetics, diet, and circumstance. 

None of us are immortal in our physical form.  Your premonitions could have truly been precognition.  It may be that you were given that knowledge to forewarn you or somehow help by those who loved you.  I can't say for sure. 

Either way, I feel for your loss, though I truly believe that it is only a temporary loss. 

Matthew