Say that you lived a very full life with love and family etc. But never met that "soul-mate" or "other half". Like many, but still try to find them anyways. Maybe you never met, just passed each other by or did meet but something else came up and never went any farther. You would never know what could of been, and eventually never know in this life.

Now assuming we control our fate, have free will and plan our lifetimes to learn and grow with love. How do you find that special someone when its completely up to them and yourself? You can't affect each others free will, correct? So in that fact the possibility of finding your soul-mate is infinitely low. It's not like you can re-do this certain life again and make some adjustments so all the stars align correctly and find that happiness in someone else. If it never happens in your life, then you can assume it was never suppose to happen and will in fact never be.

Terrible thoughts right? It's what keeps me up all night  

Anyways I figured it would be interesting to know what you all thought about that with spirituality mixed in. For those who found your true love, all the more to you.

I think, Sidey, that there is always much more that is possible than we imagine. My own personal experience has taught me not to predict what will happen in this area of our lives. It is clear to me that the partner who has the most to teach you is not always the one who brings the most happiness into your life. So, I have come to the conclusion that it is best to reserve judgement about what a 'soul mate' actually is.

However, it is natural to want this happiness, even to long for it to the point of distraction.

I agree with the idea that there are energies available which can help you come into harmony with love, with an experience of love which is great, full and deep.

Whether this person is in your immediate physical vicinity does not matter, with regard to your intention to communicate and connect. In meditation, you can meet your true love, which is really the one who helps bring you into clearer focus -- to yourself.

But, you didn't want to hear all of this. You just want to find your soulmate. Your soulmate also wants to find you. Be open, and believe.

Hi Sidey,

Ask yourself what you are really seeking. Love and intimacy? Companionship? Security? Etc.? The only place to truly find what you need is within yourself. Only you can meet your own needs.

The "one" is always the best teacher and that person can be anyone. Life, nor love is perfect. We are here to learn and those close to us are our best teachers.

Kathy