I have a question. My Mom commited suicide in 2007.I have not sensed her since she died, but my youngest daughter had a few dreams of her. I dont understand why my Mom has not come into my dreams when I ask at night for her to let me know she is okay. I worry that she is stuck in between worlds. Is there a healing time for her? How will I ever know what has happened to my Mom since she died? When a person commits suicide do they visit the person who has been deeply effected by their actions? Could it be she don't let me know she is near me because I was devestated and mad at her for doing that? If someone has any knowledge of what happens after a suicide can someone please answer this for me? Thank You Stac

hello stacy,

firstly i have said a silent prayer for ur mom, and i am pretty sure shes waiting for u there, that does not mean u shud move up ASAP...i believe  have their own reasons to take such a drastic step. Before getting mad at her, which i can understand, u shud however try to feel why she did wat she did, i have no experience of the after life, but im pretty sure shes doing well, and getting cured of the heart aches she suffered, if i say more i might cry...god bless u...(i am not attaching a smiley or emoticon coz none can portray how i feel).

Sending you warm thoughts and love, for your strength in these difficult times.

I believe those who commit suicide are cared for on the other 'side' just as any other person is cared for. They may need some 'time' to heal, and I believe that is provided for them, in a place which has meaning to them. I do believe that having a very strong emotional connection can make it difficult to communicate after death, in that the grief and loss are things that you just have to work through in your own time, and there is a reason for that.

I think that people who commit suicide can simply be overwhelmed. It is too difficult for them to see that the future can change, and they feel compelled to make a decision. Of course, each situation is unique.

As for communication, I don't know why you haven't had a dream, but there are other methods of 'communication' that I personally find meaningful. Dreams are not the only way. I believe you will have a dream, at some point, but no one can say when. But there may be other moments, perhaps when you are quiet and still, sitting alone with your thoughts. You may find a message there too, somewhere in your surroundings, if you can notice it.

I think these moments are rare, because we rush from place to place in our lives, and we are distracted. I think that it is when the thoughts are the most still that we can hear the voices of those we love the best.