hello to all the respected members on this forum .i am feeling selfish for asking for help right after joining the forum , so please pardon me and do help me ....
i was living my life with peace and tranquility . i had lived a life without many events until august last year when i saw this girl one day ..... and suddenly everything changed.....as if i had just woken up from a 28 year sleep ( my age then ) . for some time i could not figure out what had happened to me....but before long i realised that i had fallen in love with her . it was no mere attraction.... i love her from the depth of my soul  .... you will know of my feelings when you help me....

i have not yet expressed my love to her ..... as i fear that i will be utterly heartbroken if she turns me down  . please ask the good spirits and guide me ...... i just can't live without her . just going through the daily chores is not living a life.... when she is there in my heart every moment ... . i just want to have an idea of her feelings before i ask her . i am really stressed and i don't think i can take much more .

here's a link to my picture , should it help . you can ask me for any other information you want in case you decide to help me . i can not thank enough for any help extended..

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Hello gunjan:

Below are some thoughts:

1. Dependency and love don't work well together.

2. Love can be fully shared only when non-dependency exists.

3. An infinite future of love awaits us; therefore, there is no need to become dependent on any one person.

4. A day will come where we will share love with many other beings to an extent that there will be no need for being insecure.

5. Even if we can't find a good relationship while in this World, we can still open up to love.

6. If you feel love for somebody, that proves that you're already in touch with love. The love comes from within.  Look there.

7. Actually, love doesn't belong or come from anybody in particular. It belongs to everybody. To be with love is like to swim in an ocean of water. It would be ridiculous for a fish to claim that the water comes from itself, and no place else.

8. Don't make it a test. Open up to unconditional love as much as you can. The more you try, the more you grow.

9. If the lady you speak of turns you down, you'll be okay. There are a lot of fish and LOTS of love in the sea.

Hi Gunjan. Faint heart never won fair lady. You need practice in being turned down and in finding you don't die if you are rejected. We get further in life if we set our pride aside and be willing to fail in our objective.

Hey, you won't die if she says, sorry, I'm just not that into you. You can enjoy the sorrow and frustration, nothing like love to expand the emotions and make us feel. Feeling anything is a trip in itself. You can't feel if you are dead.

God has many ways to protect us from mistakes. Ask genuinely for God and the angels to protect you if this is not right for both of you. Make it an intention very clearly inside your own psyche: Angels, let her say yes if it is good for both of us. Say this three times to yourself with passionate feeling and true intent. Then trust you are being taken care of. Walk with confidence in your decision to ask her out or not ask her out.

We are not mind readers. Respect her ability to communicate with you. But hang loose, like the message above advises. Hang loose. There are billions of fish in this sea. You have a generous heart and will no doubt fall in joyful love many times and have your heart broken many times, all the wonderful experience of emotion. Welcome it all. Don't get hung up on this woman until she clearly returns your feelings.

Also, I suggest something that will sound silly: get yourself a Rider-Waite deck of tarot cards and a tarot book by the authors, MacGregor and Vega, called Power Tarot. It has a Romance section for each card. The best advice I can give you is: take the answers it gives you seriously. I have never known the Tarot cards to be wrong with regard to my own personal questions in many years of use. Accept the negatives and act accordingly, save yourself much trouble.

Anyway, there is no way to avoid being hurt in life and specially in romance. That's why for thousands of years they have been saying: Faint heart never won fair lady. At least you don't have to get on horseback with a hundred pounds of armour and joust in deadly battle to get her attention!! Vee

gunjan wrote on Mar 13^th, 2009 at 1:35am:


I love to read this line, this morning, "its her happiness that matters more to me, seeing her happy brings such joy to me" because that is the kind of sentiment that seems most important in this world. It is not all about kind words, or how one is received, but what is in the heart, a sincere desire and appreciation for another's happiness.

I wish you well...