Greetings vagabound,
Sleep deprivation (that part is real, right?) is a tried and true way to break down barriers between this world and the afterlife! It's usually by accident that it happens, say as the result of caring for two active toddlers!
The first woman was most likely your Oversoul or guiding spirit, showing you that you have defenders /defences (symbolized by the dogs) that help you.
You can talk to her (mental telepathy), and then listen for answers.
Discuss with her just one question at a time, and treat her with respect, whether you really believe in her at first, then
see what happens.
The second one seems to show you in control of yourself and your tasks, saying that you can do it! That was two years ago and so it could have helped, unconsiously at least, to have the reminder that you have these capabilities.
(Are the children in school yet? If so you did get through that difficult time of having several little ones around. If not, can you plan some really active play time, outdoors if possible, so that later after a meal or snack, you can all get a nap?)
You're a very busy lady! Much respect to you!
Betson