Hi help me,

Welcome to the site, and I hope you can stay a while and learn a little while you're here that might help you out.

I felt exactly like you do about death at your age. I can't say I have all the answers but there are a whole lot of people who have had experiences which might help you open your mind to afterlife possibilities. Victor Zammit's site comes to mind. Take a look there.

Also, this site teaches a form of meditation which can help you to contact spirits yourself, directly and safely.

You are sooooooo much more than your body, is what I've been taught by my own experiences and those of others. At this point, when people talk about my body decomposing in a coffin somewhere I feel like laughing.

When I die, my physical body is the last thing I expect to be concerned with. I expect it's going to be quite a journey, and that I will be equipped with everything I need.

Take heart, and take your time.... you can feel that way too!

love, blink

thanks for the replys but how do you know this? is it a belief or have u really seen ghosts or something that gives sign of an afterlife?

I'd echo Blink HM, it's maybe worth taking a trawl back through past threads and even looking at the 'spirit body' thread that's up now.

We don't all have the high level abilities of some here, but many can attest to experience that certainly leads one to a very different way of viewing death.

I'd not fully realised how profound this was until my father died recently, but (and not to be politically incorrect) I found myself wondering in some ways what all the fuss was about because in terms of his life situation (92, multiple illnesses and struggling with worsening dementia) it seemed the very best thing that could have happened.

The support comes through doing the work (meditation and so on) to make possible direct experiencing, we can think/intellectualise/try to make ourselves believe what the religious teach for ever and it's of little help. (we can always second guess ourselves, but it's hard to argue with experience)

Bruce Moen (who runs this site) has some very good books/manuals out on the subject (see top of page), and Robert Monroe's three or so books (the Monroe Insitute, and in a way a pioneer of much of this territory, at least in the terms in which it discussed here) set out incredibly inspiringly how he experienced the afterlife realms while out of body.

The likes of Tibetan Buddhism avoids 100% hyping it all in any way, and teaches from a very traditional perspective - but delivers the same basic message about survival (Sogyal Rinpoche's Tibetan Book of Living and Dying is a good and very readable intro) and provides teaching based on an unparalleled depth of expertise in meditation.

Lightness of mind is an important part of all this, it's easy to get sucked into obsessing on a single and negative view of existence. e.g. we're  only physical. It doesn't happen in a week, but meditation and other spiritual work opens many of us up, lets us perceive and experience a much greater reality than we might ever have imagined existed....

Most definately - do some research. The answers are here and out there - much more so than when I was your age (I am 47 now). Pursue the Out of Body Experience - if you achive this even once you will cease to question the afterlife and feel "1000 times better".
One book that I read whenever I am feeling low is Richard Bach's "Illusions". It is an easy read that may give you some perspective.
Get to work!

Another way of expressing the possibility all are driving at:

Everything we perceive (our body, our conscious mind and the reality we appear to exist within as independent beings) is actually a projection of mind.

We project/create what we believe by in effect selecting the reality that fits our beliefs from the gazillion possibilities open to us. We share certain experiences because we share beliefs in them.

What we believe we bring into existence. When we feel negative towards others and situations we (by the above) are in effect feeling negative towards ourselves. This is why it brings negativity into our lives.

We can change our lives and our perceptions by changing what we believe. Meditation and the other forms of spiritual work mentioned here provide the tools by which its possible to expand our seeing beyond the negative and self reinforcing tunnels of vision we sometimes get ourselves locked into.

The spiritual path, or the path to God/realisation in effect entails the dropping of the egocentric conditioning we all pick up and the gradual (or quite sudden) dropping of beliefs (it's actually the dropping of our attachment to beliefs, and in the ensuing space which arise because we no longer see selectively to fit our beliefs the dawning of our ability to see true realities) that lead to joy, and the consequent realisation of that reality.

Just as its easier to wear sandals than to cover the world in leather, it's easier to change our mind (beliefs) than to change the whole world'.

Never fear HM, there's lots of joy waiting for you out there...

Alysia,what happened to your photo?is there a full moon tonight?

Hi spooky,so did I.I found myself out in the kitchen.I was standing next to the cubard,I tryed to rest my arm on it,and my arm went right down through it.I wanted to go outside,but i thought I might not get back inside.George