Dear all,
Thank you all for your input here.
Recoverer, special thanks for your reply. This is more the style of answer I search.
That does not mean I like the other answers less.
I like when people sort out differences: Like the difference between "
love and lust".
In fact, you can make a whole lot of differences, or things we can be wrong about like the difference between:
1. pleasure AND happiness
2. vanity, pride, etc AND self-respect (or awareness of your own "real" worth)
3. material wealth, exterior power AND wealth of the soul, power over yourself (control over your own mind, instead of controlling other things)
4. freedom through money AND freedom through love, safety, etc (and other positive feelings which money can give you the illusion you have it all)
5. physical beauty AND inner beauty
6. etc.
Another important aspect is BALANCE and EQUALITY in love.
I mean one should love himself as much as you love another. If you love somebody else, more than you love yourself, you won't be equal to that person. There is probably a DISBALANCE in your conception of love.
All souls are equal in the experience of feeling and thought, therefore all souls are equal.
No soul is worth less than another. Therefore no soul should treat itself or another less than itself or another. Just a thought.
With love and care,
Sonia