According to my studies, relationships are very important. Meaning after transition, each of us is asked to look at what developed within all of our relationships, to access our failure or success in creating more love, or whether we created problems or wars, or whether we fullfilled out intentions in that life.

we all have an intention for incarnating, and we plan our lives before incarnating. this is my belief, because I often see the future in dreaming, and then it happens that way, so that I've come to believe that I have planned this life. Still it's like an experiment as we can always choose to go down another road where it seems we've forgotten our intentions, or we don't have one.
so we have belief system crashes at times. People used to call them nervous breakdowns. it's just crashing out of one belief into another system of beliefs. beliefs tend to find reinforcment of it's system as we travel down the road, where our focus is, we have a tunnel vision focus, because we don't have every body elses vision or beliefs, we have just our own game plan.

so what color is your parachute? When we just do what is the thing we love to do the most, that is the color of our parachute and this is where we can enter nonduality state, of what it feels like to be fullfilled in your destiny purposes.
It give you a feeling that you've found yourself at last. then you no longer question whether that dirty rat Hitler is in heaven. because you do your purpose, you find love, you extend love and this is doing a life.  to be in nonduality just means to be focused on your own life and not wavering from that purpose, then you bring salvation into the picture as saving yourself.
that is to say Love matters between every relationship. Forgiveness is a nonduality state.
Forgiveness is not love itself. It simply clears the mind of hatred, and also of the judgements we place on others, who might be claiming they are channelling God.

hatred and non tolerance here is what non-forgiving attitude perpetuates, then love cannot be viewed as real.  so like Briggs says, forgiving is like a road sign. It was given by a man that he knew how to give up this world and go to the next because he did not hate. He knew they didn't know what they did, the harm that they created. His message was only love.

its actually scientific. this thing called releasing. I just saw Blink demonstrating it on this board. lol. surprised the heck out of me! Once you let bad feelings go, then the universe does not like a void. something will replace the hatred.

sometimes you can let yourself cry..notice how it feels better after a good cry? you have just released some bad feelings is all. Now you are empty and you can see your way clear, now you can learn to forgive, and have faith, as of old, faith works. It is believing in love to prevail always. be guided by love feelings. We cannot change the world..we can only change the way we react to the world.

alan said: Of course, we must try to communicate in love while mortal, as this will define our ultimate, intimate reality
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yes. I agree. I'm speaking of every single relationship even if it was just a few words to your postman daily, as well as sisters, neighbors, parents, extended family..not just soul mates, not just whom you were married to. reaching perfection is not what you think it is Alan.
and reaching perfection does not mean learning stops or less involvement with life on either side.
but perfection is surely a very relative term, and w'ere in the process of discovering who and what we are and our beginnings right now which most likely has nothing to do with perfection but everything to do with assisting one another. talking about lifetimes of work.

I think you have been most helpful here btw

Hi I would like to have a relationship with Frank Sinatra when i enter the spiritworld,it would be a great experience to have him singing to me and feeding me celestiel grapes ,Deanna wants to get with Burt Lancaster when she goes to spirit.

Love and God bless   love juditha