Snoopydoo wrote on Jun 13th, 2008 at 12:50pm:Hi kthorse,
I know most of you won't agree with what I have to say but...
I'm saddened to say that what I believe happened to you is that when you told her to go that it was ok, that it is simply the fact that YOU had now accepted the fact she was gone and that your mind would then stop playing tricks on you... That is my belief!
I always wanted to believe there was an afterlife but I don't anymore... In fact, I am now convinced more than ever that when we die, it's the end of everything...
My ultimate proof to me was my mom passing away in early May. If there was really a life after death, she would have come back to let me know, that I know for sure... And unfortunately, nothing like that ever happened, so I now have my proof...
Sorry
Snoopydoo
well Snoopydoo, you're right about one thing; most of us do not agree with you. and the fact that you are here, have come to a board entitled Afterlife Conversation shows that you wish perhaps to find evidence that there is an afterlife.
that means your mind is not entirely closed down to the possibility that there is. good. as well, although I'm huffing in the wind here to you, still, it would help to suggest, maybe to others here, a closed mind is not able to recieve anything but what it wishes to see. an open mind will be much easier for spirit to communicate with. but of course you are not knowing what I mean by spirit either. we can just call spirit to be, something larger, more loving, more all knowing than our respective egos with tunnel vision. and I include myself to have tunnel vision but working on it.
The nonphysical folks in this other dimension have great difficulty getting through to their loved ones although this is practically their only activity to do so. They must often resort to such things as butterflies, picture moving, slipping into your dreams when the mind is relaxed, all sorts of ways that your mother may have tried without success, all this because she surely loves you..all mothers love their kids.
when I lost my husband, at first I flipped out in anger. this is a natural phrase to go thru. I asked myself how he could leave me if he really loved me, and with his kids, all alone. I had to work through the anger which is a hurting thing behind it. I had to forgive him for taking an early leave of absence from us. I knew there was an afterlife. We soon established communication. but even with the communication there, it takes a awhile to get through the feeling of being wronged, as they left, and without a goodbye even.
I suspect you are feeling this anger towards your mom and that you love her so much, that's why you feel it and how you deal with it, is to say "well, there's no afterlife, so live for today and don't suffer about the fact that this is all there is, what you see is what you get." Don't cry you say to yourself.
but it's ok to cry, it's ok to have hope to see them again. It's ok to continue to search and be open to the possibility that you could be wrong, and if you are, that's when you might find your own evidence.
Love life, love yourself as hard as you can, because it's for sure, you won't be this particular person ever again, so appreciate yourself and don't close down. ask for a sign. you can get what you ask for, I know, I do it all the time.