Hi Deanna-
When I was attending the Chapel of Light Spiritualist Church in Portland, I recall the minister's solution. At the time it sounded rather trite, but in fact it's a technique for karmic leverage. His advice:

Whenever your lonely, or tired, or sick,
Do something nice for somebody. Quick.

Initially, I put this in the same basket as the person who reminded me that one can catch more flies with BS than with vinegar. But in fact, this is a quick way to readjust attitude so that once again you are in charge of the situation. By taking responsibility, we gain the ability to respond.

PUL to you both-
dave

Hi Juditha and Deanna, I'm glad you have found a new church and made a commitment to yourselves. It seems like it will be a good thing for you to find a place that suits you both. And they're the lucky ones, too.

love, blink

Hi Ian I  agree with you if life was a bed of roses, then we would not learn anything and thats what we are here for,only sometimes i wonder whether in my previous life i owed a lot of karma as i seem to have payed it back since as long as i can remember and i,m still paying,but i have always felt like this world is not my home.

Love and God bless    love juditha

Hi Juditha and Deanna,
Maybe take a view from a different perspective of the box.
Look at yourself as being a flower. Watch the stages of the growth and the journey of a flower outside in nature.
It endures much before it blooms, right?
It begins like we do from the tiny little something called a seed.
I am sure it hurts alot as it begins to get roots. Things thriving out with force of the middle of its something.
As soon as it reaches above the earth, the seemingly troubles begin.
It gets drowned by rain, sometimes by gushes of water like a hurricane rain fall.
Then the sun shines on it again. It reaches firmly towards the sunrays...
But lets face it, the neighbors dog finds it so cool that the booger has to walk up to it and pee on it, calling it his own.
I am sure the plant feels like smacking that dog up side the head!
The next minuite, it begins to hail - big ice cubes falling right on its body and all this little plants really wants to do is - grow up, not harming anyone.
Hmmm, then a bird decides it wants to poop right on its head, weighing at down again, so the plant hopes literally for some rain again so to cleanse itself.
Hop Hop Hop, a bunny rabbit comes along and takes a chunk of one of the flowers arms, oh gosh what pain it must endure!

So it begins to get smarter and blooms so bright that the human notices it, puts a fence around it to protect it, nourisches it with love..

Eventually, the sleeptime comes back around and it is tired and sleepy goes back within itself and starts the whole procedure again next spring...

Thats you and thats life!

Moral of the story:
The dog that pees on you, the rabbit that bits off one of your arms and the bird that shits on your head are present so you learn to "OVERCOME" them, so to bloom brighter and be noticed for YOUR INDIVIDUAL BEAUTY!

My suggestion to you:
Shine and bloom! Shine as bright with love as you possibly can, that scares away the peeing doggies and the bite`in rabbits!


Love ya,
Nanner

Hi volu I'm slowly learning to stand up for myself as my confidence in myself is getting stronger as i had been put down from a very early age for years and now i'm having councilling which is helping me to be stronger in this world.And
welcome to the afterlife knowledge,nice to have you on board.

Love and God bless    love juditha

Hi Lia It is a very hard world out there and no matter how much you try and cope with it,sometimes it just seems like you are not getting anywhere even though you keep trying,i have found this many times in my life and have reached dispair at times but the one thing that keeps me going is my children and my love and faith in God because he loves us unconditionally.

Love and God bless you Lia      love juditha