It's interesting to me, Alan, that almost all of my meditations (which allow me to simultaneously fall into a tranquil, physical state) are somehow "magically" devoid of sexual thoughts or feelings. One would think that I would drift into some sort of interesting adventure more often but that doesn't happen. Perhaps it is more inviting if a person is currently not happily partnered, but I have never found that meditation increased such desires at all. On the contrary, it brings effortless peace for me.
I was drawn into an interesting "merging" event during a meditation a few years ago, which seemed very important, but my "partner" and myself were not in bodies which looked like earth bodies. They were blue energy bodies which were anatomically like earth bodies, or at least quite similar. It was a beautiful and very intimate dance, spinning around in weightless bliss among the stars. However, I don't even know who that was. It could have even been some other aspect of myself, as we were so perfectly matched.
I can only imagine that whatever needs we each have can be met "out there" very well. I have not pursued that kind of "partnered exploration" in the past, but I see no harm in it. We are never given more than we can handle. But, yes, intentions are important. If we live from love we may find ourselves in places we are not sure of, but we can have confidence that it is safe to explore. And, even when we do not live from love, there is a lesson in it.
Dreams, of course, are a little more freewheeling. A few more adventures there, but very rare.
I feel that I have been fortunate to find my "soulmate" here. We skipped a good 25 years before reuniting but it is clear that this is the partner meant for me. I will certainly be looking for him out there if I find myself able to do so. What is funny is that he is very concerned that we go to "the same place" together after we die. I think that's sweet....and kind of horrifying, in the earthy sense of constriction.
I suspect that in the afterlife we have many things to do available to us. Absolute freedom should the the priority, in my opinion. Although it is a more challenging mental state to sustain, at least here on earth, I think it provides the truest kind of happiness.
love, blink