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Bringing consciousness to balance fear?
Feb 2nd, 2008 at 1:11pm
 
Greetings,

This has probably been answered but I'm seeking to refresh my understanding  Huh
While exploring the 'higher' planes thru OBE or phasing, when we move beyond what we consciously understand and love, is that when fear sets in?
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Do we need to be emanating PUL to carry consciousness further into the unknown?
If we are not emanating PUL, can we just have set our intention to bring PUL into the unknown and thereby avoid fear?

(My experience is that since I cannot see and still rarely hear while OBE or phasing, I don't know what or why I'm fearing, but I do return to C1 with a sense of fear. I would like this fear to not happen.)

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Re: Bringing consciousness to balance fear?
Reply #1 - Feb 2nd, 2008 at 2:03pm
 
Hi Bets,

I can't say I understand what you are talking about here in reference to the OBE and phasing...but as far as fear goes, I heard this a long time ago and I always keep it in the front of my mind when fear arises...FEAR = False Emotions Appearing Real.

I also tend to believe that fear is something our ego creates to try and keep us separated from our spiritual potential or oneness. 

Not sure if this fits in what you were asking, but thought I'd share anyway. Smiley

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Reply #2 - Feb 2nd, 2008 at 2:33pm
 
I am going along with you both here....it is as if we are afraid of our own "bigness" like a child who is afraid of its own shadow....

lol, blink Smiley
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Reply #3 - Feb 2nd, 2008 at 2:51pm
 
Can't speak to your specific experience Bets so take this with a pinch of salt, but fear in non-ordinary states of consciousness is often reckoned to be a result of the ego or part of mind that sees things in self terms finding it in a place that scares it. If it gets intense enough it can pop one back to ordinary consciousness. Getting to these more exotic states of consciousness anyway requires stilling the thinking mind, but it can get spooked so to speak.

I've not perfected holding those afterlife type states with stability, nor am I quite sure exactly how I get there - there's a kind of 'clicking in' and 'clicking out' of what feels almost like a conscious dreaming state but the best I can manage is to rest in the general area while meditating and hope that something involuntary chooses to happen. In my case it seems to be more some banal sort of mental disturbance that drops me out rather than fear, usually after shortish periods ....
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Reply #4 - Feb 2nd, 2008 at 7:08pm
 


WinkAhhh!!!,

But not all beings in existence or out there, or during an OBE, are benign entities are they? now?

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Reply #5 - Feb 2nd, 2008 at 11:06pm
 
Hi Bets and all,
I'd say there can be (at least) two types of fear:
1. Fear coming from, or actually consisting of a certain, particular "something". This could be stemming from an experience in the past.
2. A general fear regarding the existence of oneself, to lose control.
  One example, in my younger days I smoked weed, and sometimes too much, adding some beer and it could get pretty bad; I couldn't control my thoughts, didn't know why I was having this thought, couldn't follow conversations, past and present got mixed up and such. I lost control, and this brought a great amount of fear, fear without a cause to name, other than fear of losing control, losing myself.
  I found this type of fear here and there in my mind journeys ("phasing"), and one time I had it when all signs of an OBE-to-come were there. Sometimes I can relax it away, sometimes not. Trust and faith would help, but is not easy to "get". Something to lean on is needed, could be someone, something, or a strong self. An affirmation could be like "I am I. I am riding on the eternal love of god and nothing can get in my way."

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Reply #6 - Feb 3rd, 2008 at 3:17am
 
HI,

Just like love there is no single definition of the word 'Fear' We could fill a thousand books with analysis of this frightening word.

Anyway some fear is neccesary and healthy is it not?

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Reply #7 - Feb 3rd, 2008 at 5:32pm
 
betson wrote on Feb 2nd, 2008 at 1:11pm:
Greetings,

This has probably been answered but I'm seeking to refresh my understanding  Huh
While exploring the 'higher' planes thru OBE or phasing, when we move beyond what we consciously understand and love, is that when fear sets in?
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hi Bets. I just had to check up on you dearie. one of my favorite subject. u sucked me back here. lol....for my opinion fear is not an outside force. it's always attached to a certain belief system. if you look within you can trace it by concentrating on the reason why you are afraid. sometimes u have to concentrate for a full two minutes, you find the root, then you can make a new decision whether you want to hang onto that fear or let it go. yes, fear sets in when we observe an unknown thing or situation, either here or there. I/there.


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Do we need to be emanating PUL to carry consciousness further into the unknown?
If we are not emanating PUL, can we just have set our intention to bring PUL into the unknown and thereby avoid fear?
u could say it that way. maybe its like this: u r driving your car and you come to an accident. it is a fearsome accident. you have a choice. you either drive around the accident thus avoiding the fearsomeness of it, or you might stop to assist  if you can, unless others are already assisting. I say this to mean it's difficult to be an avoider of fear, as this world is based on fear. u will see this because so many are the business of selling you insurance, and a lot of it is that we become over-insured sometimes; that is based on fear. going into the unknown we have to do that, or we become stuck where we are. so if we're talking about exploring nonphysically, we will explore nonphysical realms in the same way we explore physical realms. if we're in the habit of emanating PUL here, we automatically emanate PUL there, but I don't think PUL can be carried..rather it carries us


(My experience is that since I cannot see and still rarely hear while OBE or phasing, I don't know what or why I'm fearing, but I do return to C1 with a sense of fear. I would like this fear to not happen.)
I don't know why fear is happening to you, other than you need to find out why it's there. fear, all emotions are a communication to self. they need examination before they can be put away. no fear is coming from out there though. you may be telling yourself that the intention is not kosher for you yet. you're not ready, but you will be; so the fear makes you stay put and think on it some. I have a friend who explores out there. he says he rammed a gate. I know the feeling. but there was some fear to experience in doing that. he found his limitations. a guide told him, you cannot go beyond this point. you are not ready. then he was escorted back to his usual stomping grounds to contemplate his blockage. one day he will be allowed beyond the gate, and there will be more discoveries for him. I can only conclude he limits himself with this fear, and the guide just acts as the one to show him, he himself will not allow himself beyond a certain point. yet. but I have faith in him..he will see beyond the door, and so will you, when we allow PUL to guide us beyond. you're so cool Bets. you don't even know it, thats what I like about you



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Reply #8 - Feb 3rd, 2008 at 6:13pm
 
My instinct on fear is as above towards what Alysia says - that it always originates in ego or the perception of self. Because we're in reality indestructible, but ego being a C1 construct doesn't know that.

Fear is not a simple issue, or one easily overcome. It's a central issue on the spiritual path since progress entails progressively 'killing' the ego or the belief in an individual independently existing self. It's taught in Buddhism that it's a fallacy to seek to and in fact an impossibility to eliminate fear.

We can sometimes as Alysia says by meditating on it get to what's causing it, and with that insight come to realise that our reason for fearing something makes no sense and so it evaporates. But until realised there will always be situations we can't get underneath, and where we'll get sucked into identifying with our fear as being real.

'Fearlessness' is another acronym for realisation. But even then the reality is not that fear does not arise from time to time, but rather that we've learned to look at it from a higher awareness and consequently not get sucked into believing (identifying with) it. Resulting eventually in equanimity - awareness 'that there is fear', but not being influenced by it. (fearing but not fearing you might say)

Another acronym for ego is that it's the edifice we build to avoid facing our fears - the delusional mind edifice that by using denial, suppression, substitution and so on seeks to keep us with our heads buried in the sand. It never succeeds, these strategies bring their own suffering, and the suppressed fear still eats away at us.

Fear is in this case very widely defined - everything from the bowel loosening totally consuming panic that follows from the worst situation imaginable, right down to the 'something's wrong' gap we feel because we weren't able to have our usual shower or cup of cocoa this evening before going to bed.

The realised person has developed the ability to stay open - to as above connect with their fear, to see what's going down, to go into it, and where they can't unravel the cause to at least acknowledge it without getting sucked into total identification with it.

Closing down presents many dangers. The behaviours above and their like inevitably lead to harm and suffering for self and others. Classic delusions include chasing money and material goods, delusional mind states (e.g  numbness, arrogance, greed, aggression, victim mentalities etc) and a lack of loving kindness (most especially towards oneself, but inevitably as a result towards others). All are harmful 'feel good' compensatory urges which we mistakenly think will assuage the multitude of fears in our lives.

These three categories of delusional behaviours are known as the three Lords in Buddhism, I seem to recall - unless we can transcend them they rule every aspect of our lives....
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Reply #9 - Feb 3rd, 2008 at 10:49pm
 
PS Another way of looking at fear is that it's the emotion at the opposite end of the same continuum as love. It even feels much the same at first contact, except that we attach a negative connotation to the fear feeling by making a judgement which itself goes on to alter the feeling. We like to talk a lot about living through love too, because that's in some way more positive.

But it's probably easier in some ways to learn to work with fear in our lives, than it is to learn to live from love. Because it's so tangible and  present much of the time, whereas love can be rather more aspirational. Both mind you can get very subtle too though, fear isn't always obvious. (like the feeling off because of missing your routine shower as above)

Another argument of using fear as a guide is that our normal egotistical view is primarily the result of fear. Realisation or however you want to describe it is basically our natural state, what emerges when the self and consequently the fear is transcended - we don't have to recognise it to find it.

Chogyam Trungpa's book 'Shambhala the Sacred Path of the Warrior' is effectively a guide book for doing this.

Anyway, it's just words. But some of this stuff that sounds oh so airy fairy is damn practical when it comes down to it - if you're on the path of personal transformation, if you've not been too fearful  Smiley to bite that bullet.

The tendency we all share to want to dive off into interminable intellectual discussion of technicalities is by the way one of the techniques we use when fear causes us to want to hide from reality as described in the post above - it's one of our favourite ways of distracting ourselves from the 'oh sh1t' feeling that we tend to get when we contact unvarnished reality, or find ourselves in space, in the moment or the now. That if we're not centred enough to be able rest in it results instantly in the compulsive urge to chatter, to fill the space again with blather or whatever game the ego mind has going to keep us distracted....
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Reply #10 - Feb 3rd, 2008 at 11:33pm
 
hi Ian..another way to look at fear is that it is divisive. while love is cohesive.

we often say here where there is PUL, fear cannot be, and if you test this out for yourself, when you're feeling love, you cannot feel fear.

be careful not to limit yourself by beliefs though, because if you are feeling really good, like on a day when you feel love, you might tend to not believe that you can always stay in the feel good place, and so the ego might express in that moment, to look over your shoulder as surely it cannot last. but that too, is just a belief, that you cannot stay there.

when we do explorations out of body, or phasing we are instructed to think of a time when you were relaxed and feeling love for something. a pet, a place that made you feel good, like a vacation spot, there can be many examples where we felt love. then we use the feeling to explore inner space with. it's sure a lot better than thinking, oh rats, I'll never get there because I'm afraid of...feel in the blank...we do this constantly.

I agree with you basically to work with fear. matter of fact I think I've conquered nearly, my fear of driving a long distance on the freeway just by doing it. maybe thats all we need to do is walk into it, then we tend to say, hey, that wasn't so bad as I thought! we just move past it and surprise ourselves. Love has to be worked with also, side by side I think, because when a fear is conquered u end up loving yourself more for doing it.

it sounds to me like it would be so easy to dissociate from the ego by making it a scapegoat. yet thats the same as saying the devil made me do it. wasn't my fault. shucks, darn devil. so what we need to do is talk to the ego like it's a friend. ego always speaks first though, but since you know it does, you can tune into the 2nd voice of wisdom without separating yourself from your ego, which is fear, which is controlling, etc.
maybe we can employ the ego to do what we want it to do, so that it won't feel left out and think you want to kill it.

lol. do u know what I mean?
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Reply #11 - Feb 4th, 2008 at 8:20am
 
For sure Alysia it's bad news to grasp after any of these states, whether fear or love - because both are a failure to accept and be easy with what is.  Smiley I guess too that as somebody said we can't imagine a negative ('non-fear') and so it given our dualistic ways of relating to stuff it makes sense at times to think of love too.

The happy reality though seems to be as we've discussed that as we move towards this equanimity we eventually (facing the realities hurts at first - potentially a lot) seem to from a kind of emotional numbness into a space where the experience of joy is spontaneous and much more pronounced and accessible too.

Smiley As ego fades we come into our natural birthright so to speak.

For sure 'the ego made me do it' could become another form of fear driven evasion or failure to face reality. But you set out the answer - courage is key. We have to face and rest in our fears if we're to overcome them. By as you say for example doing what it is we fear, or meditating on the emotion to gain the insight we need to realise it's irrational to or whatever....

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LaffingRain wrote on Feb 3rd, 2008 at 11:33pm:
I agree with you basically to work with fear. matter of fact I think I've conquered nearly, my fear of driving a long distance on the freeway just by doing it. maybe thats all we need to do is walk into it, then we tend to say, hey, that wasn't so bad as I thought! we just move past it and surprise ourselves. Love has to be worked with also, side by side I think, because when a fear is conquered u end up loving yourself more for doing it.


I think this is right. You just kind of talk yourself into the first step is all....after that, your own momentum will get you through. It is possible to consciously let fear drop away unless you are having a panic attack, and, even so, it is possible to learn to recognize -"panic attack"- and not "own" such a thing, if you know what I mean.

We pause for a moment and recognize it, as if it were a buddy of ours, and we can even pat it on the back a little and indulge it for a nanosecond....but this is the purpose of disciplining the mind: we can let it go.

So, fear has no real power. It is something to observe, like all other things...and then we move on.

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Reply #13 - Feb 4th, 2008 at 10:34am
 
I think you've hit something there Blink - that what matters is that first step. Facing it without running away or diving into some compensatory behaviour before we even realise what's going on. Because chances are that if we can get in sight that (a) it's not half as bad as we thought it might be and (b) we usually have the means to cope.

Feeling the urge to avoidance of the reality is another example of working with the Tibetan Buddhist 'shenpa' I spoke of before - it arises before we ever figure a game plan.

The real harm is done and suffering follows from our runaway imagination as to what might happen, or our deluded (in the nicest possible way) actions.

Guess this applies at the level of a specific issue like started this thread, and on major aspects of our lives - maybe even our whole 'view' of existence.

To respond to Alan's point about fear of physical death on the other thread. It's much the same as above, except that it's the great granddaddy of fears I guess.

It's not easy. Somebody mentioned before one of the old Tibetan or Zen masters who when a student told him he'd meditated fit to bust a gut and had finally overcome his fear of death jumped on him and started strangling him. The student predictably enough struggled furiously. 'So you're not afraid of death?????'

The point being it's very easy to through intellectual gymnastics convince ourselves that we have it in hand but the chances are that's some form of suppression and that the reality is another matter. The point is not to eliminate the fear. The point is (to paraphrase somebody) 'feel the fear and do it anyway'. With time the fear either fades as having been proven irrational, or we develop the equanimity needed to view the fear from a distance - as though the mind's chattering is not ours......
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Reply #14 - Feb 4th, 2008 at 1:14pm
 
Hi

I am really amazed at the resopnse and interest shown by the forum to that most negative of emotions Fear

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