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MY SISTER JUDITHA TRIED TO COMMIT SUICIDE
Jan 16^th, 2008 at 8:04pm

Hi i am worried about juditha ,she tried to commit suicide saturday night ,she tried to cut her wrists with a knife ,her son davy managed to stop her in time and he rang me and i went round to judithas house and when i got there she had a few cuts on her arms i cried ,she had split up with her husband but they are back together now ,which i am pleased because they love one another i told my sister not to try and cut her wrists again because i love her and wouldnt want to be without her ,i think she is okay now i hope so anyway love deanna

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Old Dood Senior Member Offline Posts: 448 Lansing Gender:	Re: MY SISTER JUDITHA TRIED TO COMMIT SUICIDE Reply #1 - Jan 16^th, 2008 at 8:27pm Deanna, I do not know you or Juditha. However, I would not 'think' she is 'OK'. Keep an eye on her.
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recoverer Super Member Offline Afterlife Knowledge Member Posts: 5027 Gender:	Re: MY SISTER JUDITHA TRIED TO COMMIT SUICIDE Reply #2 - Jan 16^th, 2008 at 9:15pm Deanna: Please tell Juditha that I send her much love, and to please, please, don't try again. She might want to read this NDE. It doesn't involve a suicide attempt, but there are things within she might find helpful. http://www.near-death.com/wallace.html
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Reply #3 - Jan 16^th, 2008 at 9:21pm

Dear Deanna, Old Dood is right she needs to be put under psychiatric care "now immediately”. She should be hospitalized. This type of person will commit suicide if no adequate intervention is brought to bear. In my view based on my experience with mentally disturbed persons this is an urgent matter or you would not have brought it up in the first place. It is a matter of urgency my dear.

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Lucy Super Member Offline Posts: 1158 C1	Re: MY SISTER JUDITHA TRIED TO COMMIT SUICIDE Reply #4 - Jan 16^th, 2008 at 9:30pm Dear Deanna I am so sorry to hear this. Please tell her I send her love and peace. I hope she will be back here posting very soon. Lucy
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Reply #5 - Jan 16^th, 2008 at 9:42pm

I hope Juditha will feel better soon.
She and her husband may love each other, but as we all know, there are complicated partnerships. I guess Juditha thinks she would bother her loved ones with her problems, so she didn't know what to do. It would be a good idea if she had someone, a professional, whom she could call anytime when she is feeling bad, someone she could trust. It would be great if such a person could be found. Because what she did is indicating that she is suffering, and that she wants and needs someone who can help her. And she communicated it with an exclamation mark.

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Reply #6 - Jan 16^th, 2008 at 10:12pm

hi Deanna, it may be hard to get her to see someone for help so I think a good idea, as her sister, to visit once a day, sort of just be there for her, u don't have to hang out to long, but it's like watching her closely and letting her know you are there. she may or may not lean on you for emotional support, but I'm sure your love will effect her spirits.

I will be sending support to you two and I want her back here too. love, alysia

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Reply #7 - Jan 16^th, 2008 at 10:39pm

Dear Deanna,

Thank you for bringing this news to us. I know it is hard to share.

We love Juditha very much here, and we care about her and about you, and about all of her loved ones, as you have become part of our family here.

Please give Juditha my love, and tell her we are here for her, and that she is daily in our thoughts.

love, blink

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Reply #8 - Jan 16^th, 2008 at 10:47pm

Dear Deanna,

You have been such a good sister with Judith, but no one can help her as much as a professional. They know where to start and how to untangle the problems she is dealing with. I hope you can convince her to get help.
And also, be good to yourself with enough sleep and nutrition. Your families will appreciate it.
We love you! and Juditha!
Love, Bets

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Reply #9 - Jan 17^th, 2008 at 12:10am

My heart goes out to Juditha. I think she should have loved ones around her and get support, be it from a psychiatrist, priest, therapist, or enlightened friend.

When she is more settled, she should be shown examples of the consequences of a successful suicide, either with examples from NDE.com or just by calm discussion.

My prayers will go out to her tonight. I am sure that others on this forum will pray for her as well.

Love,

Matthew

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Reply #10 - Jan 17^th, 2008 at 3:19am

Hi Deanna, i'm sorry to hear about the stuff going on with your sister, my heart goes out to you both and the rest of your family and friends.

I can only imagine that you are probably pretty upset right now, but i do want to mention that if i was your sister, and going through what she has been going through, i'm not sure i would overly like a public site to know the specifics or details of my trials. It's enough to mention that she is going through a rough and personally challenging time, but let her be the one to decide if she wants to mention the details or not. I know you are twins, and are very, very connected, but you are still different and unique at the same time.

I second Bets advice too, because i sense this might be an issue as well. Having gone through severe depression (which got pretty suicidal at one point) for awhile myself, i found that my diet and general physical health state had quite the effect on my emotional/mental state. The more i changed my diet and exercise habits to more positive and healthy ones, the better i began to feel emotionally and mentally too.

If you would like any pointers in that direction, please feel free to p.m. me, and i can suggest some books and info along those lines.

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Reply #11 - Jan 17^th, 2008 at 7:53am

Deanna,
Assuming you have to work for a living and cannot keep a 24/7 eye on your sister I would strongly suggest getting other family members (And Close friends) involved to help out.

Set up a 'Tag-Team' so Juditha is ALWAYS with someone 24/7.
Even get her husband to chip in.
Also if he tries to bring his own problems into the picture remind him that it is not all about HIM. Other words: "Me...Me...Me..." B.S. It is also not a 'Blame Game' either. Don't allow it. Be 'kind' but firm as nails.
It is about his wife that he has set a commitment toward when they got married.
It is time he stands up and takes responsibilty.

Once again I do not know you or your sister or even anyone in your family however, this is what family is ALL about. Closing ranks and doing whatever is needed to be done.

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Reply #12 - Jan 17^th, 2008 at 9:52am

I forgot to say, you know, Deanna, that your sister has seemed depressed for quite some time. She may need the help of a doctor. I would not normally suggest it, because I am not an authority on these things, but she might certainly be helped with some antidepressants for a short time, if she has not already tried this route.

My sister's life was saved by antidepressants. I do not think she would be alive today without them.

If I were Juditha I really would consider giving it a try, just for a while. She has been going through so much, and the stress may be too severe.

I think if I had not tried them for a while last spring I would be having some troubles right now. Just a short period of time, four months or so, a combo of antidepressant and tranquilizer, was all I needed at the time.

Ultimately, I chose not to continue them. Some of my family were not happy that I discontinued them, and some of them were very happy. The main benefit I received, I think, was that it made clear to me that I had several realities from which to choose.

I really could choose how I would like to feel, as long as I was willing to accept the context in which it was offered.

This was brought into a clearer focus for me by taking this risk, and then making some new choices later.

Another exercise which is helping me immensely right now is keeping a gratitude journal. Falling into a habit of finding one thing to be grateful for every morning is changing my life. It takes only one sentence to open up a new world, to begin a beautiful new day.

Please know we care about you both, Deanna.

love, blink

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Reply #13 - Jan 17^th, 2008 at 1:35pm

Deanna, Juditha has shaired her depression on this site a number of times. I have little doupt that there is some mental instability currently happening in her life. One thing to know is that people who attempt to kill them selfs are almost always looking for help or for sympathy. If she really wanted to kill her self, she would be dead. Not knowing the personal situation with her husband, its hard to say if he is a good part of the reasoning behind the problem. Don't discount it even if you believe it not to be true and that the "love" is a good one. Next I suggest a good hard and swift kick in the butt. Let her know just how you feel about her display for attention. Offer her as much love as you can without giving acknowledgement or forgiveness to her attempt. The love being the most important part. For you, realize that you can't fix everthing nor do you need to. She is her own person and will do what she wants. Sometimes it may be best to step back and not allow her actions to cause an negative effect on you. You should make an attempt to not allow her poor judgemt to pull you down to her level. Keep your chin high as I know you are doing your best to be a good sister to her and to give her all the love and suport she needs and that you have available right now. Don't mollycoddle her as she will only learn that these negative actions and displays are getting her just what shes looking for. Attention. You should feel no guilt!! Don't allow her to lay some sort of a head trip on you by her actions. Let her know that we love her and will be supportive of her once she feels better but will not condone her actions. My thoughts, I hope thay can be of some help.
Joe

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Reply #14 - Jan 17^th, 2008 at 2:02pm

Hi all my dearest friends,i have missed you all so much,i had to change my computer as my other was just went completely and its took me quite a while to do this.

As Deanna has put this on about my attempt to suicide,i feel i have to say what happened,

I was all alone on saturday night in the house and i was so so down about my life so i attempted this suicide and when i did this everything around me was oblivious,it was like it was just me and what i was doing and i wadsnt even feeling the pain of the cuts i had done,i know i started then on my wrists ,only my son walked in and stopped me,i only know that all i wanted was to be free of the pain inside me,i just wanted to die.

Deanna came down and talked to me and i had my arms bandaged and they are beginning to heal,my son and my daughter brought home to me what i had done and could not beleive what i did ,tryed to leave them and i didn,t just hurt me ,i hurt them very much as well and they made me feel ashamed of what i had done to them.

My doctors reffering me to a phychiatrist now and im on medication,i never thought that this would happen to me as i always thought that i would never do suicide ,it just happened at that moment and it made me realise that i was capable of taking my life.

Deanna,s watching over me each day and also my children and at the moment my husband and i want to say that i love you all and thankyou for your love and support you have all sent me on here.

Life is hard and sometimes it can make you feel ,you don,t want life anymore,it makes you feel like you want to find the love and the peace in the spirit world.

Love and God bless Love Juditha

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