spooky2
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Hi Hassan, I think I had very similar feelings on several occasions, and I found a pattern in it: It had not so much to do with what in particular I planned to do, but that it was something different than I normally did, something new, not familiar. To leave the familiar home for certain is something new, and it is normal to feel more and more uncomfortable about it, because it is like you loose the ground on which you're standing, it seems as there's nothing for you to hold on so you might, exactly, feel lost. Maybe when you realize that this is the normal reaction when facing a new situation, you might calm down a bit. I often ask myself in such situations "Now, what can happen?" I come up with some bad things which can happen, but first they're not very probable to really happen, and secondly, surprisingly, I find myself thinking "Yes, could happen, so what?" In fact, I realize then that I NEVER would get lost, no matter what would happen! Sometimes, when something new is about to happen, the old dies, this can hurt and cause some sort of grief and disorientation, but after a while normally the new situation is established and has become familiar so that one can again feel settled. Of course you can ponder whether it's the right decision to leave home or not, but the underlying pattern, the necessity that you can't avoid new situations from time to time, will remain. The more one tries to avoid something new, the lower the level will fall from which on anxious feelings will arise. As so many things in life, the right balance is the trick. Not too many/too big steps at once, and not too few new things in your life.
Spooky
P.S. What Alan wrote is true as well, but it's not easy to discern between a warning from intuition and the kind of anxiousness I sketched above.
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