AhSoLaoTsuAhhOmmra
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But is love always just nice, flowery, and/or diplomatic words, or a charming, light, personable, or even enthusiastic manner (after all, how many successful sales people aren't actually quite enthusiastic in same) ? I've found from both experience and intuition that few incarnate people can consistently and deeply read the inner intents, motivations, and the inner heart of a person, based solely upon their words or to a lesser extent their actions.
Some actions are so obvious and overt, that yes they can and oft do indicate some of the inner intents and motivations...but what about more subtle things, like typing a post on an internet group forum? Are the deeper intents, motivations, and the heart of the person so easily read just through their words which appear as lifeless symbols before our eyes?
Perhaps there are some people so attuned and sensitive, as to be able to do this in a more consistently accurate manner, but it seems that they are probably rare.
This leads me to some very important, obvious but oft times very overlooked points about people's manners and the words they write.
There are those who speak with a silver tongue, who seem very cool headed but yet personable and diplomatic, they can be charming, and they know how to say the right things at the right time, they're good at knowing what people want to hear. Their words and their manner can seem very nice and even 'spiritual' but their inner intents, motivations, their hearts can be barren of any true love, warmth, or concern for others despite the outer charm and personable manners.
Such is the average politician for example, who smooth talks and walks his way into positions of power and influence, who smiles and shakes your hand, but who later when you are not looking, tries to stab you in the back because you nothing more than a number to him. Such people are very, very good at manipulation and few see it coming because well, they can seem so nice and considerate of others.
Such people rarely 'rock the boat' in any obvious or overt manner, after all, their deeper (and usually unseen) goal is either to be liked, or to get you to trust and like them for other reasons. Rarely do they have any overt or obvious conflicts with others, because they know how much few people can deal well with same in a direct way. Like i said, they are very good at saying what they think you want to hear, or what will get them to get their way.
Let's look at the sign Libra for a moment. Libra is halfway through Zodiac, and is the first sign that deals primarily with relationships..in fact, Libra more than any other sign represents relationships, particularly close ones or diplomatic ones. Libra likes and is quite attached to harmony and rarely can deal directly to well with overt conflict, disagreement or anger. Libra is a sign known for its manners, its charm, its social graces, and when its towards the positive they can be very nice, considerate, and somewhat sensitive tendencies.
They are great "people pleasers" and are very good at saying the right things at the right times, they are good at tuning into the social atmosphere and reading what the majority or sometimes individuals want, almost in a semi-psychic way, but not quite like Pisces and not to the degree that the latter can.
Not surprisingly then, we find Libra oft very prominent in the world of diplomatic relations, psychologists, counselors or therapists. It's not uncommon to find it in the world of politics or entertainment either. Libra is well suited to all these various expressions.
But, Libra rarely is half as selfless, considerate, or as loving as they want others to think about them.. in fact, their image is oft very important to them, even if on a more unconscious level.
And there is a darker side to Libra, as there is to any sign or expression. The more negative expression of Libra is known to be the master manipulator, the master charmer with a self serving agenda, they are very good at puffing up people's egos to get their way, to get what they want. They can be very deceptive, but in a very subtle and oft times unconscious to themselves kind of way. Oft times their "sensitivity" to others, is rather superficial and based more on the intellect than on deep feelings. While they oft talk of, and seem very obsessed with love (they are the type to fall in love with love), they can have a surprisingly hard time actually feeling deep and unconditional love to and for others.
In fact, they oft have a rarely seen but very critical, judgmental, and perfectionist side to them (especially if they have strong Virgo energy too, which many do since its the sign right before them, and Mercury and Venus travel close to the Sun).
Love is oft more of an unreachable ideal to them, and they can hold others up to some pretty unrealistic standards, BUT they can be mighty lax and relaxed on themselves and their living up to those ideals. Because it is such a 'relationship' oriented sign, too oft they focus way too much on others, their actions, their beliefs, and not enough on their own development, actions, and focuses.
Add a strong Neptune to the mix, and if they are not too centered, then they can be extremely, extremely self deceptive or strongly fall for the deception of others, especially to those who seem to be put on a pedestal by others.
In general, Libra rarely shows its anger or dislike of you in any direct way...no, no its much too subtle and repressed, 'refined', and "above" that (at least in its own mind), no their deep, repressed anger and sometimes rage tends to come out in more indirect and subtle ways. A subtly sarcastic and mean feelinged word here or there, insinuations and indirect character assassinations and attacks a bit here or there... Or their greatest trick is to subtly, but cleverly and manipulatively to try to turn others and the "group" against the objects of their dislike and anger. They may claim hurt or attack where there really was none meant. They might point their fingers at those more direct, honest and sincere than themselves and say, "look at those bad, mean people who say hurtful things to me or you, they must be very negative to say such undiplomatic words." "please, pretty please dislike them as i do".
Let's look at the converse for a moment. There are those with inwardly kind and warm hearts, but who have learned the hard way that oft honesty and directness is the best policy. Not always, but as a rule. They do not have a "silver tongue" and they rarely say what they think others want to hear. They say what they feel or think. They sometimes lack charm and social personableness, but even in their sometime painful to others bluntness, they rarely mean any real harm and don't know the meaning of subtle manipulation. If you piss them off, if you upset them, well you're going to hear about it and chances are, probably pretty directly and honestly.
The great attribute of these, is their lack of repression and their deep sincerity. And they tend to be rather self honest, as well as honest with others. People usually know where these folks are coming from, and while they may get hopping mad at you or a situation in the moment, they are oft completely over it pretty quickly.. They can't hold grudges like Libra can, and because they express outwardly, and not hold within, they tend to have less real psychological hangups. They tend to be less OCD in nature.
They could probably use some of the diplomacy and outer sensitivity that Libra oft displays, but more often than not, Libra could really stand to integrate more of their natural tendencies, especially the self honesty and directness of these types.
But, who is usually more "popular" or well liked among the majority, or among the groups, do you think? The ones who say what they are really feeling and thinking, and not what they think others want to hear or what sounds nice, or the ones who are good at sniffing out and sensing what others like hearing and are more than happy to oblige? I mean, haven't our long list of politicians, profit or status motivated sales people, false gurus, and con men shown us over and over again, who we as a whole tend to like and listen to more?
Consider this post a parable on real life of sorts. Appearances can be very deceiving, and the person who speaks in a gruff and no nonsense manner can be coming from a more positive inner space than the one speaking honeyed, socially acceptable words.
A silver tongue, a cool manner, and a lack of real or deep understanding or positive intents can do much, much more harm to others than the person who is sometimes too direct and in your face with their real feelings and thoughts. But, so often in the moment like attracts and begets like, and this world is short on nothing, if not on deception, half truths, self delusion, image attachment and projection, and those who would mislead others (either because they themselves are deluded [most common probably], or knowingly and purposely).
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