Yeah dude, non-physical life can be tricky at times. The problem with the Greys, as far as I'm concerned, is that I don't know their nature. Friendly? Unfriendly? Neutral?
If we expect to see a Grey, we might see one. When I've seen aliens they didn't look anything like a Grey, Reptilian or Nordic. Actually, one time while meditating a Reptilian like being looked at me in a very hostile way.
Perhaps the only way to insure that you make contact with friendly aliens is to live according to love and light. Consider those mock abductions I've written about. I believe they made the point, along with other experiences, that as long as I choose love and light, I'll be okay, regardless of what's out there.
There have been a few occasions when I had alien contact and it felt friendly.
I guess this sort of thing has to take place in steps as we overcome barriers.
It's interesting that you do so while at a young age, while I'm 51. Regardless of our age, perhaps "a" need will occur at the same time.