Hi aylsia This is my definition of the male generation

When your a young and single girl,you know how to laugh,when you marry a man,then you sit there trying to remember ,what it felt like to laugh long ago.

When you marry a man,you lose your self essteem as you are never as good ,when he takes you anywhere as the girl what passes by is always better than you in his eyes.

When you marry a man,he takes away your identity,as all you are is just his skivvy and doormat.

When you marry a man,you feel all the emotions of hurt,pain,humiliation and the realisation one day when you wake up,that you waisted to many years on him.

I'm not saying all men are like this but most of them are as they are always full of storys to there mates of how hard done by they are when there married because some men are really unfeeling and selfish.

I asked God why i had to end up with this sort of man, but i was probably learning about each emotion and i did learn what pain hurt misery and total betrayel meant,so my spirit is now familiar with these and thats why i'm in the process of divorce, because i learned what i had to learn from this man,who i probably made a deal with in the spirit world before i was born to experience this.

I think that divorces are meant to be as when your spirits learned what it needs to know,then divorce is imminent and you move on to new experience.

Like the song says"What the world needs now,is love sweet love,its the only thing,that theres just to little of".

Love and God bless   Love Juditha

It's a tough space Juditha, but for sure it's all a part of the learning process.

Observation would suggest that lots of ladies (no more than men) struggle to love themselves - that something gets programmed in that leads to a kind of chronic low self esteem.

This seems to usually manifest as an inability to receive love. Compliments, gestures and the like are brushed away and with time are not even perceived. Or if perceived are dismissed as not being genuine, or as clumsy male efforts not worthy of acceptance. Leading to a chronic feeling of being unloved which often turns to resentment.

Men often compensate for their insecurities and feeling unloved by over assertion. Which can make the touchy feely part of things even more difficult leading to their and their partner feeling even more unloved. Or can feel that a lack of assertive action by their partner implies a lack of love. And which can spill over into aggression in the face of the above resentment.

Both patterns (under assertion and over assertion) when combined with an inability to read what's going on in the relationship or  to make space for it can become so ingrained and habitual that even repeated initiatives by either party will be blocked or misread. Leading eventually to genuinely hostile actions on the part of both parties.

The habitual behaviour patterns of both parties it seems to me somehow (in absence of deeper insight) often reinforce each other to leave both parties feeling out in the cold.

That's not to say that there aren't nasties out there too whose intentions are genuinely unpleasant. Or that some don't come into relationships with this low self love already so established that they purposely set out to hurt themselves - it's in the end maybe another example of our bringing into existence that which we most fear.

It all seems to be part of the great game of awakening - of learning to love and to live in love.

Bottom line in all of this though is that it takes two to tango...

I am very sorry for the pain you have gone through, but I certainly hope "most men" are not like this. Also there are some men who are very badly treated by women as well.

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u r an amazing person Juditha to be doing all of that. seems like you will be fine and on the right path and your heart will be healed from all your work. love, alysia