George, I understand that feeling quite well!
Oy - mea culpa!
I now have an 18 year old grandson who is intent on marrying an unemployed woman four years his elder. Both of these kids are seemingly incapable of holding a job as yet, and have noidea about marital details such as "eating" and "housing" and other technicalities of life.
If God were to whisper in their ears that it's time to get their stuff together, I'm not sure that they would be able to hear and understand. If you recall, at 18 you were unique, you were immortal, and everything could be made to work if only you could get a grip on it. And when in doubt, love seemed to conquer all. And besides, we were being led through the world by our gonads. Later on, forty years later, things look a bit different.
I think that we're stuck with free will and the necessity to figure it out for ourselves, because this is the only way that we can bring ourselves back to our Origin. Whether this is a curse or blessing is a matter of opinion.
dave