LaffingRain
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in the end the judgment is in the hands of the person their own self whether they did right or delayed their spiritual soul progress. its so individual, that sometimes it is ok when there is no end to suffering such as from an illness which is progressed too far.
in the case of my stepfather blowing his brains out, he had had part of his leg taken off due to cancer, as well his voice box, so that he was using a contraption to speak with. they said his cancer had come back, when the tests were wrong, yet he went ahead and killed himself. I was the last of his family to see his face as he contemplated what he would do, I read his mind, as he wouldn't speak right then, he wasn't in this world, he was looking into a corner of the room and there was so much love in his eyes it startled me to silence. I don't think we said a word to each other the whole visit. afterwards, after death, he made the rounds of loved ones. specifically he needed to ask forgiveness of my mother for some things he had done, like refuse to move out of her own house and let the bank take it back. she forgave him. nobody is punishing anybody, it's not like that over there, but we establish bonds on this side and if we kill ourselves and cause another to suffer from that, we "owe" them an explanation, simply because of the love bond, which is what lasts forever. love does not die, and neither do we.
I retrieved a suicider once, because his sister asked me to, he showed me the entire fllip he did thru the air from off his motorcycle; he said he enjoyed it. I was hard pressed to explain him to his suffering sister! unfortunately, it is often the case with relatives that they take on themselves the blame for family members going out this way. that is where the karma lies, that they are bound to be employed to somehow disengage the suffering they did bring to the living by explaining why they did it, and in this way society begins to realize there truly is no death. but we aren't there yet. I saw him attending a "world" school to alleviate tensions in Iraq, as well he made frequent visits to his still living mother, father, and sister and would use the usual tricks to get their attention, butterflies in weird places, small signs and however he could communicate he was well on the other side.
my husband knew he was drinking himself to death and so did I. once he got on the other side he had no guilt whatsoever. I even went obe and expected an apology which I did not get! he was glad to be on the other side, it was some work I had to do to release him, but no there was nobody but me blaming him. I got over it, but he had to come back several times to help me get over the suffering part, he had a guide with him. sometimes they really don't understand when a family member suffers that they left or they don't understand how hard it is to go on when you lose that person's physical presence in the world. what happened once he died, he simply got himself a place, probably built it himself through his mind, then he continued life as usual. I cannot honestly say whether he was still addicted to booze but hear this happens. In another obe, two fellows, guides, popped up in this obe to encourage a new project for him and thats the last I heard, that it would cause his character to blossom out. he never worked on himself while he was here. I was very happy and excited for him. he wasn't religious, so naturally there would be no symbols of religious characters around him.
I think there are some who chicken out. this just my viewpoint. then there might be some this is their first life, and it is just too hard to adjust to harsh reality here. Some, their higher self decides to yank them out as their on the wrong path maybe. Others came to defeat an illness and instead the illness defeated them so they end it. Some plan it to exit early. Then they come back and like this fellow Michael, they get their mom to write a channelled book telling what its like on the other side. theres always friendly advisors on the other side, guides, more enlightened beings circulating the areas, but theres not court system or condemnation, but a sort of delay of the holding of your graduation day from Earth.
love, alysia
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