Great topic and very interesting what happened in that spirit church.
My take is , GEE, I hope the Medium and others in the place were "teaching" the shy spirit that he was doing a GREAT THING to ask for forgiveness and explain that "he" doesn't NEED her forgiveness to move on and BE HAPPY. And to encourage "him" to make a commitment to make it up to her in future the BEST that he could. Also, tell the "spirit" to take his "eyes" off the woman and look to the "light".
The meeting helped the WOMAN to realize people are still alive after death and that is positive and people should have compassion for the WOMAN because forgiveness takes time and needs to be explained in a way that she is doing the forgiveness for HER FREEDOM and not his freedom.
It should have been a GREAT event , everybody appauding the Spirit for asking for forgiveness, would have Lighted-him up alot. And people offer support to Woman and allow her time to go through the forgiveness process. I know if you chopped up my child into pieces and you came to me 1 week later and asked for my forgiveness... sorry, but I'm not ready yet. And to make fun of me because I'm not willing to forgive you yet, would be adding more pain on the wound.
Great topic and I love what everyone is saying. My 2 cents.