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I agree!

I disagree.  What a crappy thread.

Blink,

It is your choice, but creating a thread, personally about someone like this won't accomplish your goals.  Your opinion will be seen, but it really doesn't create a change - and now it becomes......personal.  If it were me, I'd use the peer moderator system, and mention in the thread that I planned to do so - rather than creating this thread.  I do respect your freedom to choose and your openness.

Love,

Matthew

OOB,

Expressing PUL does not mean that you can not disagree with someone or even get riled up or feel that they are negative in some way.  This is part of our humanity.

I have also seen what Blink sees.  I have seen Tempest generalizing with negative statements about how hypocritical this forum is, or how unfriendy or unloving the posters are (this occured almost immediatey on the DK thread).  Despite all this, you and I agree that creating a thread personally directed at a poster, no matter how honest and open, is inappropriate.

Matthew

This board needs active moderation, not simply the peer system currently in place.

Respected members should be appointed as moderators of each of the boards, preferably two or more. These persons should have a certain level of awareness and the temperament to handle the rough and tumble of this board. An example of the level of awareness would be graduate of TMI's Lifeline program and others who have the equivalent awareness. We need people in touch with Guidance who can in turn guide the newer members, however subtly, towards greater awareness while also spotting energy vampires and teaching them with PUL, or suspending or removing them as appropriate, again with PUL. Some of this guidance is already provided by individuals but on a selective basis. There are members of Linn's board here who could fulfill this function, and others as well.

The current system forces someone to either go behind someone's back or risk a flame war in the open. A moderator would have the authority already in place to handle issues in an open and transparent manner while also having the power to remove persistent offenders. Bruce would then only have to moderate the moderators.

I think most of us who have been around these boards for a while know that the average level of awareness of the members of Linn's board is higher than on this one. This is not a bad thing, but points to the need for more hands-on management here. Unfortunately, Bruce is not available to actively moderate these threads on a consistent basis because the focus of his spiritual efforts lie elsewhere. I think authority should be delegated to appropriate moderators to keep this board running smoothly and to allow Guidance more opportunities to assist.

Love,
Rob

Cricket,

What you propose is the easy way. It means doing nothing until the other person fits the requirements of OUR ego-based perception.

You can't get through to anyone by ignoring them. Trying to assist someone with kindness and patience while tolerating their abusive behavior is much more difficult, but the only way to reach someone who doesn't listen very well.

If guides and helpers used this black & white thinking you suggest, no human on this planet would ever get any assistance unless they behaved perfectly. On second thought, perfect people wouldn't get assisted, either, because they wouldn't need it. So guides and helpers using your approach wouldn't have anything to do. Easy for them, disastrous for us.

Rob

I am with you on this one Cricket. I have opted, through guide and spirit advice, to simply skip the posts from posters who are recognized as offensive. We all have our own lines drawn as to what offensive is, so go by that. I am incouraging new posters to do the same. In my opinion these types of posts only serve their master. They feed on fear, if you simply don't give them that power...they dissipate. 

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"You can't get through to anyone by ignoring them. Trying to assist someone with kindness and patience while tolerating their abusive behavior is much more difficult, but the only way to reach someone who doesn't listen very well."

I agree with you on this one Rob, but sometimes helping someone who doesn't want it is like banging your head up against a wall. What do you get...a bloody head...a headache? I too see crys for help but I am not that kind of warrior. If you are Rob then go for it... I applaud you.

Best of luck, Stacy