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put the money in my hand first

I did a couple phases I do believe. I'm usually wordy so let me condense the steps but I think everybody is individual.
1) first have an intention. like a retrieval, you know, go help somebody out.
2) close your eyes.
3) put the cat out.
4) hang a "do not disturb" sign on the door, or go to a motel.
5) ask for your guide and just trust
6) be quiet and wait.
7) just when u get tired of waiting, wait a little longer
8) ask for a visual, an image.
9) if u see anything focus on it mentally until it gets sharper
10) if its a retrieval, start asking the person how u can help them, or different questions to break the ice.
I never phase or obe unless I need to go help someone, thereby helping myself.
I used to try to go obe years ago before I knew what phasing was, which phasing is lot easier. you can also set an intention to remember where you've been at night while you sleep. then if you have a very strong dream, study it, thats where you have been. the number one rule is asking for assistance from your guides; but if you think too much you won't be able to pick up that they are there trying to help.
build on your intentions, where you wanna surf, who you wanna see, what the highest good means, make it a spiritual journey, not just a popping out of the body, but have to have an intention set strongly.
otherwise you be all dressed up for the party and no place to go. reading books helps. love, alysia