Why does your husband not believe?  If he's an atheist, and somehow he's gotten the idea that there is a necessary connection between being a theist and believing in the afterlife, you might point out to him that there isn't any *necessary* connection at all.  A person could be (like my Dad) a complete atheist and still believe in an afterlife...one has nothing necessarily to do with the other.  My Dad looked at it as a "law of nature" sort of thing...you die, you pop up on the other side, no "Supreme Being" or what have you involved.

My Dad had an off the charts IQ, if that makes a difference to your husband...the afterlife isn't something "people who aren't smart enough to know better" believe in.  It is, as you said, up to him in the end, but he'll probably be a lot more comfortable at the transition if he's expecting it.  Still, plenty who don't believe in an afterlife seem to do just fine once they get there...I think it's a matter of why and "how hard" they don't believe.  Some are going to pop up over there and go "Cool!  I'm still around!" and others are going to be a little harder to dislodge from their beliefs, so I'd say while it's probably easier to go expecting to continue on, it's not essential.

Ah.  My Dad was Mensa-level smart, too, and also liked scientific proof.  However, encountering ghosties and ghoulies trumps any scientific proof all hollow, and he'd run into a few.  He had to either conclude that he was nuts, or that there was an afterlife.  Fairly easy choice there, apparently...

Hi Boris, thanks for the link! That's loads of info there, though I'm not sure how open he'll be to reading it... if he is ever curious to know more I'd be delighted to show him the site you mentioned and more.

Hi Cricket, I think the closest he's ever got was to be able to see auras in his room when we were together. He was intrigued to see bright green lights ebbing in the room, and little V-shaped 'lights' shooting out of his fingertips. (This is part of what I see also, do you see this too?) However, he has since sadly dismissed it, saying that it was his imagination playing tricks on him.   

For myself, the clearest aura I have seen was of someone meditating in a public place next to a church, some years ago. He had a huge (extending at least a metre or two), beautiful purple aura which was astonishingly clear to me. I've never had such clear auric sight since.

Greetings Elanor,
You can enhance those lights from the fingertips by lightly using Johnson's Baby Oil as a handcream -- all in the name of science and afterlife knowledge, of course. Before my husband became ill we used to do that. Mine's also very pragmatic and it helped alot to proove to him that he contains energies that suggest a soul because they go beyond the physical-mechanical.

PS Here's a joke, probably uncalled for: Did you hear the one about
An OOBE and an atheist who were out in a boat one day. The atheist was rowing, but the oars got stuck in seaweed and pulled out of his hands. "Help Help!" yelled the atheist. "Who are you yelling to?" the OOBE asked.  The atheist groaned, "Oh, I forgot. No one! No one can save me." While the OOBE was trying to figure out what to do, and the atheist was trying to figure out who he was talking to, the atheist's mighty Jack Russell Terrier (the shaggy version,) that was supposed to be kennelled a thousand miles away during vacation, came rushing over, swimming and running through the seaweed. The courageous dog grabbed the towline and pulled the boat to shore.  
The punchline has to do with that these things have a way of getting solved but sometimes in unexpected (miraculous) ways.  

Greetings Elanor,

Some people think that sleep paralysis and vibrations are stages of your system getting ready for out of body experiences. You can 'set your intent' to have further experiences by mentally, firmly saying 'please procede' or to deny it and stop your development, firmly and mentally say you're not ready for this.
An explanation is that there are 5--7+ energy fields/bodies within the space we think of as one body, and they have to get attuned differently for different spiritual activities, hence the vibration or a momentary unresponsiveness to conscious control.
Someone else has said to make sure you're in good health--heart and circulation, etc since poor circulation can put a hand or arm etc 'to sleep.'
Re: the sparks around the hands, they are natural too, and different words have been used to describe them. "Ports" conveys alot; did you make that term up or borrow it?
It sounds like you're getting ready for a new phase of spiritual development if you want it---congratulations!
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