Hi Chuck,
Welcome to the board. You know, I used to feel just like you. The idea of reincarnation scared the you know what out of me. I figured if I'd lived before and didn't remember it then I wouldn't remember me in this life and the thought of no more me was almost more than I could stand.
Then I read Bruce's first 3 books and began to 'see.' I started exploring and finding out for myself that yes, there is an afterlife and reincarnation, but that the I that is me would never disappear. I would always be able to access it between lives. I have accessed some of my past lives too. I came to realize that is Ego that doesn't want to die. It took time, but my whole outlook changed and yours can too.
My advice would be to study, learn to access the afterlife and then things will fall into place and you will understand.
Love, Mairlyn