good luck to you both.
I believe you need to follow the courage of your convictions and if you feel it isn't right for you then you don't need to be there.
I have heard this from others about the spiritulist church which has put me off from going.
We have our Reiki group each month where we do physical and emotional healing for each other. We all work on each other, have coffee and supper...very informal... and exchange information. No one is in charge and somtimes we have even been so busy talking we ran out of time for the healing, but the main thing is it is very informal and we have no egos involved.
every organisation I have ever been in has always had those who have their own agenda and this takes away from the real purpose of why you are there.
Even with he best intention of others, it can easily turn into a bunch of whining school kids!
good luck with your own circle!
with love

Thanks cathy ,their was nothing but comtempt at that circle tonight and it should not be that way love deanna